(Closed) Would I be asking too much?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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1690 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

i think your nan would probably feel honoured,  it is after all a tradition that dates back to beyond your nans era….it need only be a stitch or two, it doesnt have to be a whole big amount she does, and it would take her 5 minutes. 

would she be there at your house anyway?  if so then i dont see a problem, if she had to travel to do it then it might not be so easy…

OR……get your bridesmaid to pack a needle and thread,  and get your nan to do it just before entering the church……its a quick job.   i am sure she would be happy to be a part of it like that.

Post # 5
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10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

She’s your grandmother. Just about any grandmother would jump at the the chance to help their grandkid in some way on their wedding day. If it were me, I wouldn’t even hesitate to ask. I guess it depends on the type of relationship you have with her but if I offered to pay my grandmother for something like this, she’d actually probably be offended. 

Post # 7
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635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Why isn’t she invited to the wedding? I have some family who I know can’t make it, but will be getting courtesy invites anyway. Also, will her health problems make it difficult or uncomfortable to alter the dress? If so, let her stitch something into the inside of the dress (her initials, handkercheif, etc) but leave the bulk of the work to someone in better health.

Post # 9
Hostess
11113 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@MrsStobe813: Umm, quote

 ‘an upper-scale store that few people on a low income can shop in!’

sorry and no offence but M&S is not exactly Dior is it? High Street store yes, but not upper scale.

Post # 11
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1690 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MrsStobe813:

i totally sympathise with your nan, i too had lymphodema in my arm after i had breast cancer and needed lymph nodes removed….mine wasnt severe thankfully and it didnt last too long,  but it does have a tendancy to come and go…….

Post # 12
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4824 posts
Honey bee

If you dont think she will be invited, for whatever reason, then you cant ask her to alter your dress. 

If you think she just cant come, but will be invited, then you could ask her. However, depending on your wedding dress they are often heavy and intricate. If her health is deteriorating it might be too much work. Wedding dresses are not like other dresses when it comes to alterations- at all.

In fact many seamstresses won’t even do wedding dresses if is not their specialty.

 

Post # 13
Hostess
11113 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@MrsStobe813: I didn’t mean to get into a discussion about it, I just meant that in the grand scheme of things (worldwise) M&S isn’t really considered as upper scale whereas your designer brands like Dior, Versace are. That’s all. What you can afford I think is by the by. You can pick up cropped trousers in M&S for less than £10 which I believe is similar to BHS. M&S traditionally only stock their own brands, it’s only recently, to be more accessible and to be more competitive, that they stock other brands, such as Fairy etc. I’ve never seen Dior and I believe they do not stock it otherwise it will overshadow their own brand.

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