Post # 1
I have my 2nd ultrasound on Monday morning at 10w5d, and I am SO excited to finally tell my coworkers about my pregnancy so they stop bugging me about looking so tired/miserable all the time.
However, my Director got married last weekend at a destination wedding and he stayed an extra week for a honeymoon. His first day back is Monday.
We had a small party for him before he left and already did the cake/ice cream/gift thing. Also since the wedding was a week ago, everyone has already seen the pictures and heard the stories on facebook. So I don’t think it will be a huge deal that he’s back.
But I still feel bad about pulling a “Welcome back! Guess what, I’m Pregnant!” scenario. It kinda feels like I’m stealing his thunder.
What do you think? Should I wait until Tuesday? I’m literally dying to finally spill the beans, so one more day seems like a short eternity…..
Post # 3
@ExcitedScaredBee: I think if you’re worried at all, maybe you should wait the extra day. I know how crazy hard that will be, but I’m sure he’ll have some exciting stories to tell and he’ll want to have that moment. You’re a good person for considering his feelings and I think he would appreciate it if you let him have one more day to bask in his happiness about his wedding/honeymoon. 🙂 Come Tuesday, I’d say IT’S ON, GIRL! haha
Post # 4
I’d just wait a day or two
Post # 5
I don’t know on this one….guys are different than girls on this sort of stuff.
I don’t think he’d really hold any grudge against you sharing your news on the day he returns from his honeymoon.
Post # 6
Honestly I would wait til you are 12 weeks or more along to say anything to co workers.
Post # 7
@ExcitedScaredBee: I’d wait a day or two.
I also agree with the PP though, I am currently 13w6d and still haven’t said anything to my coworkers. I definitely recommend waiting until at least 12 weeks.
Post # 8
I’d wait until second trimester.
Post # 9
I would not tell coworkers until 12 weeks. No exceptions.
Post # 10
I don’t think he’d really look at it as you stealing his thunder. I don’t think guys really think about it like that. However, as PP have said, I’d wait until 12 weeks.
Post # 11
Thanks for the advice. I added the 12 weeks to the poll because I was curious, but truth be told, I will absolutly be telling them next week, either Monday or Tuesday.
Rates of miscarriage after 10 weeks after hearing the heartbeat (and especially with backup from an ultrasound) are extremely rare, so I’m not worried.
So really it’s between Monday and Tuesday…..
Post # 12
As someone who has had to “un-tell” people I was pregnant multiple times, I would wait until 12 weeks, no question. I’m not saying snything bad will happen, and of course if the u/s looks good at 10 weeks, your chances are great, but still…it doesn’t hurt to wait a little while longer.
Post # 13
I would also wait until 12 weeks and then tell. Then you don’t have to worry about it.
Post # 14
I really think everyone should always wait 12 weeks.
I’m not trying to scare you, but we recently had TWO situations in my office where one of the ladies announced her pregnancy too early than lost it. Same thing happened to a guy I work with too.
Was so sad for the parents, and uncomfortable for the rest of us.
Post # 15
I would wait until 12 weeks. Not saying anything will happen, but if something did it would generally be in the 12 weeks.
Post # 16
I don’t think guys care about that kind of stuff, but I’d probably wait til Tuesday anyway because I’m sure your co-workers will be asking him a million questions.
As long as you’ve heard the heartbeat, I don’t see any reason to wait til 12 weeks. Your risk of miscarriage at this point is less than 1.5%. I’d only wait the 12 weeks if I hadn’t had an u/s and heard the heartbeat.