Post # 61
I really appreciate the input and the advice. Please don’t worry about me ‘leaving the door open’ to them asking for more help as I will have no issues saying no or just ignoring them. Sending the initial email will be the hardest (conflict-averse person here lol) but once it’s out in the open the outcome is the same – no more shopping.
I want to leave things on a positive note purely to keep the peace – but if they try to take advantage/ask for more help I will simply stop replying.
Either way I’m gonna cut the email down so it’s polite but still being firm that I’m not doing the shopping anymore.
Post # 62
-put a clear and firm deadline. Ex. 8/24 will be my last date
-if you want to cite a reason, cite your work
-take out all the passive modifiers such as “unfortunately”. It is what it is.
-take out the part about your trip. It’s too personal
You have to cut ties in a way that doesn’t invite them to use you again. You don’t owe a justification. You do need to set clear boundaries. Otherwise they’ll keep contacting you for one little favor after another, ask you to pick some stuff up when you’re grocery shopping anyway.
I would put
X will be my last date shopping for you. Now that I have to resume a regular work schedule, and the restrictions are easing, I am no longer available. I’d recommend looking into online shopping. Thank you.
Post # 63
The email has been sent bees!! Will update when I get a reply.
Post # 64
Had a nice chat with them. They were very kind about it and said they really appreciate what we’d done for them and they won’t forget it.
I like to think there was some element of genuineness and it wasn’t all an act to keep their free personal shoppers. They could have easily let the mask slip once I said I wasn’t going to do it anymore but they didn’t, they were very thankful. So I guess that’s the best we could hope for! Thanks for reassuring me it was the right thing to do bees.
Post # 65
That is great. Given the background, (same village, etc.), I’m glad things ended on a positive note.