(Closed) Would it be horrible to skip my friend’s bridal shower?

posted 11 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
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3201 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My friend’s shower ended up falling on a weekend that I would be out of town with my family. I didn’t go to the shower and I was her Maid/Matron of Honor. She knew about the shower, so I was able to discuss it with her beforehand. I felt bad that I had to miss it, but family is family. I got her a nice gift, wrote her a note and left it with her grandmother. But I went to her bachelorette party and of course, to her wedding.

Only you know how your friend will react to you not being there, if you end up not going. Perhaps you could try speaking to the people throwing the shower and letting them know about your plans. If nothing can be worked out and you miss the shower, I agree with the other posters who’ve said to buy her a gift, write her a note and maybe call her the day of.

Post # 18
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936 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t think her family is required to consult you.  If you truly can’t rearrange your plans, I’m sure she will understand.  Two of my BMs skipped my shower for very understandable reasons.  I wasn’t the least bit offended.

Post # 19
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2975 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

Well, firstly the date is not supposed to be run by you.. its a surprise for the bride so its prob the time that is convinent for the masses. You are a bridesmaid and it is your duty to be there but your explaination is totally understandable and I am sure the bride will understand, seeing that you two are close enough that she asked you to be in her bridal party. However, you should def send a nice gift with a note explaining your absence. 

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