(Closed) would it be odd to ask a priest to travel for our wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@newname_99:  Your best bet will be to talk to the priest.  Even if he says he can’t, I’m sure he’d be very honored that you’d ask!  🙂

Rules will vary from diocese to diocese.  If your priest is in an order (a Franciscan or Benedictine, for example) his order’s rules might be different from the rules for the diocesan priests.  Also, if, say, four of the other priests are on retreat that week (unlikely, but who knows?), it would probably be a really inconvenient week for him to be out of the country.

He will, however, need to get faculties from the bishop of whichever diocese Cancun is in.  “Faculties” are, in short, permission for a priest to perform non-emergency Sacraments in a certain diocese.  They’re generally quite simple to get, but he’ll need to contact the diocese well ahead of time to get that sorted out.

Best of luck!  🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@newname_99:  this is totally appropriate, definitely talk to the priest! we’re having a family friend fly from Chicago to do our NY ceremony. I’m sure he’d be honored that you’d even want him to celebrate with you! he will, as PP mentioned, need a letter of dispensation from the Cancun Diocese and a letter of good standing from his superior. From what I’ve been told, all of these are formalities and relatively easy to obtain.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Yes, definitely ask him about it. He will be honored and touched, not to mention flattered! Even if he ends up having to decline, I’m sure it will mean a lot to him that you made the request. And, best-case scenario, he might be able to celebrate your wedding, which would be *awesome*! It means so much when you can have a priest you know, like, and admire as your celebrant.

FWIW: when my sister got married a few years back, she and her Fiance were able to have their favorite priest travel from NYC to Seattle to officiate. It can definitely be done! It meant the world to them, too, that Fr. Mike did that for them.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You have to ask him, They would have to work it out with the church you have chosen. Outdoor ceremonies can not be performed by a priest. I would ask him though, no harm in asking

Post # 8
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418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

As a PP said, it depends on if he is a member of an order or if he is a diocesean priest, among many other things. He has taken an oath of obedience to the bishop, so just remember that he may want to go, but has to request permission from the bishop who man deny it!

 

Also, will you be getting married in a Catholic Church in cancun? 

Post # 10
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418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@newname_99:  Interesting! It’s definitely common for priests to travel (ours is coming from about 2 hours away) to say weddings- my great uncle came from ireland to celerate my parents wedding Mass!- I guess it would just be best to ask him and have him request permission from the bishop! I would do that sooner rather than later!

 

If he can’t, maybe you could set up email or video meetings with the priest in cancun to get to know each other better?

 

 

Keep us updated!

Post # 11
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568 posts
Busy bee

@newname_99:  yes they can travel. ask him directly. youll have to sponsor him entirely and id offer to pay him for his time. ask him now because priests get really busy.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think it wouldn’t hurt. Just be sure to make it clear that you are planning on paying for ALL of his costs (plane ticket, hotel room, etc.)

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

I think it would be fine to establish your own limits about what you will cover. If you need him there on Friday for a rehearsal and Saturday for the ceremony, for example, you can arrange his travel and accommodations for just those days. If you want him there for the whole weekend, you should cover that. His diocese or his order may make that decision for you, too, if they need him back by a certain day/time or need him to wait until a certain day/time to leave.

He will probably be okay for basic spending money. If you were planning to give him a cash gift as a thank you, though, it wouldn’t hurt to time it so that he could use the money during the weekend if needed.

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