Post # 1
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Helper bee
well bees…it hasnt happened. He said he was planning on asking while i was here…but some part of his perfect plan fell through. we still have until Sunday togeher…but he said that he was probably gofing to do it around here, where he lives. we leave today to go to my grandparents christmas deal. we still want to get married at the end of this year…hr just hasnt asked me and made it official yet.I am understandably disappointed..I was really hoping to be official. I feel like I cant tell him this…because I dont want to push him. but at he same time I dont want to keep it all bottled up.
other than being disappointed, I am in a bit of a pickle. If we want to be married at the end of the year, theres a critical period for finding the dress. it takrs time to find and order and alter…but I dont have to explain that to you guys…I guess the issue is that I only have Spring Break of the coming semester to do anyhing…and that time will be consumed with senior recital prep and mh best friend’s wedding. Waiting until summer rolls around feels a little too close to crunch time for my comfort. I dont want to feel like I have to settle becauae they cant get what I want in on time or whatever, especially since my buget is limited. I want wiggle room. Ultimately…I was hoping that my SO and I would be official by now so I could go before I go back to school. Would you hink it odd if I went ahead and went? My SO said he didnt think so…but I dont want to be THAT girl who looks like she is jumping the gun, regardless of circumstances.
HELP PLEASE!
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Post # 3
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Helper bee
PS sorry for the typos! new to the touchscreen world…and my thumba wre too tired to fix them. aka…i was too lazy haha
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
wait….the end of 2012 of 2013?????
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
If you have that tight of a timeline, I would consider it. I mean, it’s not like you’re one of those crazy chicks who goes to sample sales without even thinking engagement is pending. You know it’s going to happen and alterations take FOR-EV-ER. You want that time. If you wait until the summer, I hope you’re the exact size of the sample gowns (I think that’s a six) or you will have to have to pay someone a rush order.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
@sealevels: yeah, that was also something I worried about. I dont want a rush fee. That would be so irritating.
Thanks.
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
@missaliam: I would say that if that timeline is so important to you, then you might want to consider talking with your guy about your expectations. Just make sure you’re calm and rational when you do it. If you’re emotional and crying then he’s going to wind up feeling guilty and pressured into it. Just sit down and calmly mention that you were hoping for a timeline update. It could be that he has really legitamately good reasons for not doing it quite yet (money is one thing I can think of), but you won’t know until you ask.
Would you consider pushing the wedding back into early to mid 2014? I know that isn’t an option for a lot of people (like if you’re dating an American Accountant like me), but it might be something to consider if you want some wiggle room.
Post # 9
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Helper bee
I did consider that, but we really wanted to get married on the same day his parents did. He is a farm guy too..which makes it hard for him to get Feb or after off. I am not sure exactly what kepy him from asking because he did say that he had wanted to…he said something about the timing didnt work for whatever reason
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