Post # 1
With 235 guests I can not see how it will fit in the budget. Even something simply like tulle filled with candies comes out to be expensive due to size. We already can not afford a honeymoon :-/ My aunt suggested not doing one since people throw them away anyhow.
My Fiance loved the idea, saying our favor was a free meal with dessert, a dance floor, and a cash bar with cheap prices for high shelf spirits LOL. I like the idea of keeping $500 in our pockets.
Would it be tacky?
Post # 3
No, I don’t think it would be tacky. I do love getting favors, but I would understand if I didn’t get one.
Post # 4
No way, I don’t see favors as a necessary thing at all.
If you do really feel the need to do something, you could do a sign on the table that says “in lieu of a favor, a donation has been made to….” and donate $50-$100.
We are doing a donation at $1 per person (around $150), so that’s not too bad, but with $235 that’d be a good chunk of change!
Post # 5
favors are not a requirement — you’re already giving people food and drinks! unless it’s food, people just throw favors away anyway.
Post # 6
No, i don’t think it’s tacky at all, and honestly, I don’t think most people even remember or care. I can’t remember half of the favors I have received at weddings, or even if I got favors at all of those weddings. Save the $$.
Post # 7
I don’t think so. I never really enjoyed favors from other people’s weddings, and I noticed a ton of them get left behind at the weddings I have been to. I didn’t have them for my own wedding.
I would just forgo them! 🙂
Post # 8
Not at all! I’m only doing it because Fiance wanted his favorite Mexican restaurant to be included (we’re doing bottles of taco sauce), and there’s no way I was having them cater, lol. If it weren’t for that, I wouldn’t have bothered. Bees have done polls on here, and most people say they don’t even notice or care when there aren’t favors.
Post # 9
I’m not doing my favours for my wedding. I guessed I didn’t need the extra stress of counting how many females would be there (so not to waste money) and I think I would have to arrange them last minute. I agree with the other post that many do get left behind at weddings (guilty) and it’s a shame to waste money like that.
Post # 10
Totally don’t need them! I think you are right, most people won’t notice or throw them away. Save the money.
Post # 11
I really think these are one of those things that most brides now think they HAVE to have, but really don’t. If I have the time or the extra money to do them, I’ll pick up some pralines from a local candy shop to give out as favors, but I’m not going to stress if I just don’t get around to it. Your guests honestly won’t mind and it’s not worth spending the extra money and getting stressed over it!
Post # 12
We aren’t doing favors, mostly because I’m lazy and don’t want to bother with them 🙂
Post # 13
I posted this recently, but it is official: Miss Manners does not think you need favors.
Who told you that you had to give out wedding favors? Etiquette has never thought of weddings as comparable to children’s birthday parties, where the guests might need consolation for not being the center of attention.You owe them only the hospitality of the occasion.
Post # 14
No way, it’s just extra junk people don’t really need.. I didn’t do favors and nobody seemed to mind.. You could always donate to a charity or do a candy buffet instead..
Post # 15
My Wedding Industry BS test… ask my mom if when she was planning her wedding, it was customary to do X. Thirty years ago they did NOT do wedding favors or a lot of the other junk that orbits around weddings!
Post # 16
Definitely not needed. I think its one of those things that if they are there your like “Hey thats cool!” but if not no one would think of otherwise.