Post # 46
I went to a reception with only cake, travelled 1700 miles to be there, and not once did I think, “all we get is CAKE?!?” It was a wonderful wedding and reception, and was really fun! I would suggest you avoid dinner and lunch hours; either hold it between the two or after dinner and make sure to specify you’re only doing dessert so people can plan accordingly. Also I’d suggest serving a variety of desserts (cake, cupcakes, candy, brownies, etc) because I know not everyone likes one kind of dessert or flavor. I think your reception will be great!
Post # 47
Did anyone see that episode of Four Weddings where one bride had a dessert reception? The other 3 brides snuck out and ordered a pizza becuase they were starving! lol
OP, I think as long as you don’t have your reception during dinner time you’ll be fine.
Post # 48
svwedding: Is it at all possible to offer pizza plus a few desserts?
I don’t know how the pizzas are where you are but where I am they’re decently sized with 8 slices per pizza. You can also get nice ones for under $10.00. If you consider it three slices per guest (kids will eat less, others will eat a little more), then for 228 (including you and your Fiance – you two need to eat as well), at 8 slices per pizza you’d need 85 pizzas at a value of $850.00 if you pay 10 bucks per pizza. You could probably even work out a deal with a local pizza place to get them for cheaper plus free delivery.
I’m just thinking of the guests who need time to get ready, travel to the venue (there may be delays due to the weather and possible snow) and may not have time to eat lunch. Pizza is a nice “go between” snack that is still filling. Personally I’d rather pizza over a full sit down meal anyway. Add in a few cost-effective drinks, build a brownie tower as your cake which you can still cut and then serve that as dessert afterwards. That actually sounds like a really fun wedding to me. If you do that, can I come?
Post # 49
I only have one question. Are YOU and Fiance going to look back and regret your choices? FI and I are getting married in 2 1/2 years to ensure we have the money to have the wedding WE want. I know it’s not about the party it’s about the marriage but we have a vision of what we want and what we want that day to look like and it sounds like you’re having a hard time coming to terms with the fact that you’re not getting what you’ve dreamed of.
Personally I’d forego the rehearsal meal and put that into the reception but that’s just me. It’s your day just make sure you’re making it about YOU and your Fiance and not your Future Mother-In-Law.
I will say you should give your guests time to eat between the ceremony and reception. I’d be upset if I came to the wedding and was hungry the whole time.
Post # 50
- Wedding: September 2014 - Jacksonville Inn
Is it possible to offer a few differant desserts, one or two savory snacks plus veggie and fruit platters? It wouldn’t be nearly as expensive as dinner but it would be a bit more substantial and would be appreciated by people who don’t eat sweets.
Post # 51
svwedding: There is nothing wrong with a dessert reception, as long as it’s at the appropriate time of day. Having a 2pm ceremony, followed by a dessert reception is fine. Having a 4 or 5pm ceremony without dinner? Not ok. Just be prepared that it most likely won’t be a “party” – because daytime weddings usually are much shorter and people really don’t get up and dance.
Post # 52
I think a dessert reception is fine, as long as your guests are aware ahead of time. Make sure you say that on the invitation so no one is disappointed. I attended a wedding where members of the church volunteered to “cater” the event by heating up meals in the church’s kitchen. Not sure this would work for 200 guests, but there may be ways to still serve food and not break your budget. Picnic food, chili, soups, salad bar, pizza.. I dunno there are probably tons of things that are cheap to do in quantity. Or you could do appetizers and desserts, so that there would be something for guests who arent really into sweet things. Just be forthcoming with your guests so they dont show up without eating and go hungry.
Post # 53
I’m ok with a dessert reception if I know ahead of time that’s what it is so I can eat beforehand.
It’s so awful to be starving and then have nothing to eat but sweets
Post # 54
BridetoBee2017: I care far, far more about the ceremony and the photos than I do about the reception. I want the reception so I can thank people for coming and because it’s expected to have one. As far as the rehearsal dinner, I’m pretty sure she’s planning on cooking everything herself, and I’m going to talk to her about what her expectations are for it – I’d like to bring the out of state guests to the rehearsal dinner, if they come. I know it’s up in the air for some of them because it’s cold season and they have kids.
Post # 55
Sukii: $850 is more than we can afford to spend, our current (overblown) food budget is $800, and we’re trying to cut that down to an amount we can handle. That and the messiness of pizza make it not likely to happen. 🙂
Post # 56
ABL12490: I was talking to Future Mother-In-Law about the variety of desserts option tonight, she wants to talk about it more tomorrow, but she looked relieved that I’m leaning more toward desserts. And Future Father-In-Law has suddenly decided to see if he can help us have a DJ. (I think the DJ is important to Future Father-In-Law, because we decided we couldn’t afford a DJ over a month ago, so another thing to talk about tomorrow.) I’m waiting to set a time for the wedding in stone because I want to make a solid decision on what we feed people so we can use that to determine what time everything is.
Post # 57
starfish0116: I think I’m okay with not having a “party” – having it earlier in the day is pretty appealing.