(Closed) Would it be the worst thing ever if we didn't serve appetizers?

posted 4 years ago in Food
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

EMDEsq:  Do you want people drinking from 4:30 to 6:00 with no food in their bellies? Many of your guests will have had nothing to eat since lunchtime as the normal afternoon coffee time will be spent getting ready for and travelling to your wedding.

I would find some way to provide something to eat with their drinks.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

It’s your choice. I’ve been to weddings with them and weddings without them. The only thing that makes me think you should is the way you have described your wedding. For an elegant event, it may sort of be expected. If you can fit it in the budget, I’d say do the appetizers. If not, as long as you stick to the schedule and don’t have people waiting too long, it should be find without them. For now, I’m planning to keep it simple…maybe a fruit and cheese display and maybe a few passed hors d’ oeuvres. It is quite expensive.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

Yes, I agree with pp. IF you are serving alcohol you need SOMETHING for them to eat with it or you might end up with people who get too drunk too fast, you don’t want that. At least go with the limited apps and make sure all your guests have access. Good luck, op!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Yep. You need something. Do fruit and cheese, people can serve themselves. If you are having an elegant reception but skimp on the food people will notice.

Post # 6
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379 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

In My Humble Opinion appetizers are better than the dinner!! 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

EMDEsq:  Honestly, I think you’re good moving up the dinner, and going without the appetizer.   I don’t know any adults that can’t wait until 6pm for dinner.  If you can swing it, try and get them put some chees and crackers out. But I don’t think this is something you should stress over, regardless of whether or not you’re serving alcohol.  If someone feels like they need to wait until the num nums are available until they can toss one back, then so be it.  But I don’t think most people will care.  

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I think most people should be able to go for an hour and a half (or even two for that matter) without eating. Seriously. I’ve noticed that in our culture we tend to freak out about going too long in between meals, but the body is set up just fine to handle longer stretches between eating. And adults should (yes, I know not everyone WILL, but that’s not your problem) know better than to drink too much on an empty stomach. 

I think to be safe I’d move the dinner up, but I don’t think you need to do appetizers, especially at that price! If people notice, let them notice. Anyone who would say something about it in person is just rude. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

If you have a cocktail hour yes, you need food. If you skip cocktail hour- all good. People will notice and tummies/attitudes will be grumbling if your “elegant ballroom wedding” doesn’t have the fixings of an elegant ballroom wedding. I would find the 2k elsewhere- cut down the guest list, cheaper dress or flowers or honeymoon etc.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

EMDEsq:  I think you’ll be fine if it’s just an hour between ceremony and dinner. Most people won’t have time to drink more than one glass or two in an hour. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

EMDEsq:  okay well, being a good host should trump your beautiful vision IMO. Your guests actually care more about the meatballs and cheese than your vision. I promise. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I’ll be in the minority and say that if you move dinner up (and really, even if you don’t), you should be fine.  Adults can handle a glass or two of wine (or beer or whatever) for one hour before they eat.  I’ll have about 30 minutes between the end of the ceremony and the start of dinner, and I’m skipping the apps too.  If it was going to be a longer time period — if you were going to try to get all your pictures done in that time, for example, it would be different.  But an hour?  I think you’re fine.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Also, couldn’t you just do photos before and move straight into dinner from the ceremony? That’s a way to skip it too.

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