Post # 1
My father mentioned maybe including my second cousin in the wedding as a bridesmaid. I do not talk to her that much and she lives in a different state. I haven’t seen her in years. However, she was very nice to me and took on a sisterly role when I met her as a young teenager. She has been very warm and congratulatory towards me getting engaged and I just think she would make a sweet bridesmaid. Is it weird to ask her even though we have not seen each other in years and are not that close? I wouldn’t even be entertaining it if she had not been so sweet via social media.
Post # 2
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
ruphiolis: If you want to ask, ask. The worst she can do is say no.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
ruphiolis: I probably wouldn’t, but if you want to you should.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
ruphiolis: Yes, I think that would be weird. If you weren’t considering it before your dad put the idea in your head then I wouldn’t.
Post # 5
ruphiolis: I wouldn’t. It might put her in an awkward situation (because who can say no without feeling bad or awkward) and it’ll be difficult for her to do stuff while out of state.
I know many brides have out of state BMs but they are usually closer to them (personally).
I’ve been in bridal parties with the oh-she’s-nice-I’ll-ask-her bridesmaid before and it rarely turns out well.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Frankly, yes, I think it’s weird to have a bridesmaid who you are not close with. Those people will be in your wedding photos and memories FOREVER, and it’s a big commitment for them as well, so I’d just choose your actual close friends or family.