(Closed) Would it be weird to message someone you dont know asking to buy their dress?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: what should I do?
    message her...it can't hurt to ask : (89 votes)
    82 %
    buy the same original dress and alter myself : (14 votes)
    13 %
    keep looking for other similar dresses : (6 votes)
    6 %
    other (comment...) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 17
    2156 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @arg1202:  Picture of the dress?

    I actually did the same thing, found her the same way you did. Wonder if it’s the same dress?? haha

    Post # 18
    3682 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Somebody messaged me here out of the blue, wanting to buy my dress (which isn’t for sale) and I found it super weird.

    Post # 19
    4998 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I guess there’s no harm, but I wouldn’t get your hopes up. I had someone ask to buy mine and I said no thank you! I love my dress too much Smile

    Post # 20
    9101 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I would find it very weird and very stalkery if someone facebooked me to ask to buy my dress.


    Granted my photographer was kind enough to not blog us or plaster her name all over our photos, so it would be even creepier if someone found me.

    Post # 21
    8482 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @sheepandbear:  Idk when it first happened, but I first noticed it about 6 months ago. You have to have a connection to someone (like mutual friends) in order for it to go to your main inbox. It sucks! I tried to send someone a message who had really badly insulted a friend of mine, and it wouldnt let me. I was so mad.

    Post # 22
    107 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Why not?  I’d be totally flattered if some random stranger though my dress was so awesome they were willing to just message me out of the blue.  Even if she says no, maybe she can tell you exactly which dress it was and how it was altered so you can get the same look.

    Post # 23
    94 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Honestly I wish someone would randomly message me and buy my dress!  I’ve been trying to sell it for over a year now and can’t find any takers. Wouldn’t hurt to try, go for it!

    Post # 24
    3371 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t think it hurts to ask. I wouldn’t be offended or creeped out or anything like that. The worst she can say is no, and it’s actually quite flattering. As a back-up, I would buy the same dress and make similar alterations (which is probably be the better option anyway, unless you have the exact same measurements as the other bride).

    Post # 25
    7556 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I messaged a Bee to ask the same thing. Maybe phrase it by saying you’re interested in figuring out who makes the dress and it’s name/number. Then ask if she’s selling it. That way you’ll probably get a response regardless of if she’s selling it or not. 

    Post # 26
    1252 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Do it! I don’t find it weird at all. It won’t hurt to ask! 

    Post # 27
    1120 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @arg1202:  You’ll always wonder about it if you don’t. And like others have said, the worst thing that could happen is she says no or ignores you.

    Post # 28
    475 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Ask! It’s flattering really. Worst you can get is no response or a no, but at least give it a shot!

    Post # 29
    1004 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    If she made a suggestion that it might be for sale maybe, but I might find it odd otherwise. Maybe message to say how much you love her dress and want to know where to get one like it. If she is willing to sell I’m sure she’d mention it. Otherwise, I would use the pictures of the dress to bring to a seamstress. You could go with one of those knock off sites. They are usually good about customizing dresses.

    Post # 30
    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Another one for the “ASK” camp. It’s flattering!! What’s the worst that could happen?

    Post # 31
    13577 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think it’s a little bizarre.  I posted the name of my dress on here without a photo and had someone PM me to buy it, and I thought it was weird.  But hey, if you really want the dress and have no other options, I guess there are worse things in the world than being creepy!

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