(Closed) Would it be weird to throw my own Bridal Shower?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Throwing my own bridal shower?
    Why not- go for it : (27 votes)
    19 %
    You really don't know them like that- so no : (116 votes)
    81 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It’s a no for me. There is no polite way to host your own shower. If you want to do something fun with these new friends, why not just invite them over for brunch, lunch, drinks etc?

    Post # 4
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    519 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think it sounds great to get your new friends together, but I personally am uncomfortable with someone throwing their own shower because gifts are so central to showers. Why not just have them over for a nice get together that isn’t wedding related? 

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My answer is : HECK yes. Why not? Its totally normal for brides ( Where I come from ) To throw thier own briday shower parties. If you feel uncomfy that you dont know them and all, then no need to ” expect” gifts from them! You guys can have a nice party, have a nice cake and enjoy your day.

    Post # 6
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    1319 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I agree. If you want to invite them all out just for a fun get-together, it doesn’t need to be your bridal shower. I really don’t see how you can throw yourself a bridal shower without it being weird.

    Post # 7
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    4046 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @AlliRae:  yes, this exactly! get everyone together is fun. but call it a girl’s night in or something, not a shower.

    Post # 8
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    1715 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I woudlnt be comfortable and we moved to a new province about 10 months ago. I think organizing a brunch or something is a great idea but an actual shower is not.

    Post # 10
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    2086 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

    Throw a party to get some friends together. Don’t throw a party to celebrate yourself.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    If you’re just wanting people to meet then I agree with the other PP who said have brunch or meet for drinks. 

    Post # 12
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    18 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Complicated situation – but I’m doing it too. Originally I’m from upstate and have no family here in the city besides Fiance family (whom I am close to) and my good friends. So to not have a bridal shower would 1. be strange to some of the people I am close with but not family and 2. would make me sad like I’m missing out on sharing this with the people I see regularly.

    My situation was that none of my friends were financially capable of stepping up and arranging the event. I booked and paid for everything myself. I don’t think it’s strange at all – it’s not about gifts, it’s about celebrating and recognizing your upcoming wedding with all the women in your life. 

    Spin it as a party if you’re worried about people thinking it’s weird to host your own bridal shower. 

    At the end of the day the question is… Would you possibly feel sad or regret it if you didn’t have a bridal shower in your current “home town” with people you’re close with?

    Post # 13
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    822 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    no to throwing your own shower.  you can tell the church lady that your shower is being hosted in another city.  she will probably get you a gift without attending a shower.  for your other group of friends, you can just invite them over for brunch or dinner. 

    Post # 14
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    1212 posts
    Bumble bee

    Do it! I don’t get this whole “don’t celebrate yourself” way of thinking. Call it a shower because you’re celebrating wedding, but if youre feeling REALLY weird about gifts just tell them not to bring any. You dont have to stick to some ridgid outline of what makes a wedding shower. Invite them over, throw back some drinks, celebrate your upcoming nuptials and slap the title of “wedding shower” on it. It’s really just. That. Easy.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Sorry, I agree that you can’t throw your own shower. What about throwing an engagement party instead (before anyone asks, the difference is that gifts aren’t expected)? That way you can get everyone together, and you don’t have to feel like you’re asking for gifts. 

    Better yet, just throw a non-wedding related get together 🙂

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