(Closed) Would it bother you if…

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 4
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674 posts
Busy bee

I don’t really understand why you classify the guy as having a shady dating past. He was dating peers who were all consenting adults. What’s the problem with that?

Unless you believe the sister is in a position not to actually consent to spending time with him or doing anything that might come along with a relationship, you should probably stay out of it. You’re just going to upset your Fiance based on what you are saying, and his sister may come to hate you for it if she found out that you are the reason he was presented with such photos without a full context for what’s going on. If you cause problems between the siblings, then his parents may not be such fans of your behavior in causing problems between the two. See where this is going if you insert yourself into the issue? You might think that it exaggerates your role in it, but not really. You’ll be purposefully stirring things up when you know you don’t have full information from either party actually involved.

He may not be a fan of his sister dating his friend, but that’s not his decision to make. Besides, it wouldn’t be the first time that a brother didn’t think that a guy wasn’t good enough for his sister. The big issue I found when it came to my big brother’s friends was that my brother knew most of the skeletons in their closets. If I brought a stranger to meet him, he didn’t know about that guy’s skeletons. It was a silly bias, and it often is in cases of siblings being protective of one another.

Post # 6
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1544 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

my ex was my best friends older brother. She hated me for a while b/c of it.

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