Post # 1
So, recently me and my bridesmaids picked out their shoes they will wear at my wedding. Each bridesmaid purchased her own ($30).
The other night me and one of my bridesmaids were going to dinner. I noticed she was wearing the heels we picked for my wedding and it bothered me a little bit. I guess it is almost like I think she will get them dirty or something beforehand… So, my question is, am I irrational? Would that bother any of you guys?
Post # 3
My sister, my Maid/Matron of Honor, wore her shoes before the wedding to break them in. Didn’t bother me a bit.
Post # 4
I wore shoes Id never worn as Bridesmaid or Best Man for my friend and so did 2 others, our feet were killing us by the end of the day. She should wear them as much as possible
Post # 5
Ok, shoes are definitely different…
But would it bother any of you if they were wearing their Bridesmaid or Best Man dress (if it were something that could be worn in multiple settings) beforehand?
Post # 6
I already told my girls not to buy anything for shoes (unless they REALLY don’t have anything that’ll match a turquoise dress). I said anything neutral like a brown, silver, or white would be just fine. Our ceremony is going to be on the beach and I’m getting them all barefoot sandals anyway.
But in terms of your situation? I totally agree that I would encourage them to wear the shoes before hand to break in so they don’t wind up having to take them off from being so painful at the wedding.
Post # 7
@futuremrsmck: Considering that my BMs are wearing dresses and shoes that they already own, no. If they get it dirty, they’ll just have to get it cleaned. I think it comes down to how picky you are about what your BMs look like that day.
Post # 8
No. Its a good idea to break those in.
Post # 9
I totally wore my wedding shoes before my own wedding, and I told my girls to wear whatever shoes they wanted, so even though some of them bought new shoes some wore shoes they already had. I cannot imagine this being an issue in the slightest.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t care if they wore anything (dress included) before the wedding.
Post # 11
When it comes to shoes, if they’re new, those suckers need to be worn as much as possible. The dresses? Eh. I don’t think I would be that bothered either. I trust my BMs to have clean dresses for the wedding.
Post # 12
Wouldn’t both me at all. The dress might bother me, but shoes and other accessories they would be free to wear ahead of time. I’ll probably just give my girls a color for the shoe, and they’d be free to wear something they already own as well.
Post # 13
I was going to say no, they shouldn’t wear their stuff before the wedding… Then someone said something about breaking the shoes in, and I totally agree!
Post # 14
As a Bridesmaid or Best Man, if I purchased my own shoes for a friend’s wedding and they were cute and appropriate to wear with other outfits, then I would totally wear them. Not only would I feel that they are MY shoes since I paid for them (thus entitling me to wear them whenever I want), but I would also want to break them in. However, I would be conscious of the color and getting them dirty. If they were white or a light color for example, then I wouldn’t wear them outside the house. But if they were a color that matched some of my outfits, then yes… I would probably wear them lol
Post # 15
I remember a post about this a few months ago where the bridesmaid was wearing her bridesmaid dress to another wedding before the wedding. I think that’s a little strange, but she bought nice shoes and I think she has every right to wear them. I wouldn’t worry about her getting them dirty or anything. Most people take pride in their possessions and are careful with nice items of clothing (i.e. she isn’t going to get mud smeared all over them or prance around and break the heel off).
Post # 16
@futuremrsmck: my BIL and SIL got pictures taken in his outfit for the wedding. that did bother me at first, but i got over it quick. if he got it dirty- he’d be the one looking gross; not me!
by the way, he did get the tie dirty.
it sat on their kitchen table, staring at me every single time i was there, with dried hotsauce on it for probably 3 weeks leading up to the wedding
but i will tell you… it didn’t cross my mind one time on the big day!