(Closed) Would it bother you if….

posted 7 years ago in Accessories
  • poll: Would it bother you if your bridesmaids were wearing their accessories before the wedding?
    Yes : (18 votes)
    14 %
    No, not at all : (108 votes)
    86 %
  • Post # 3
    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    My sister, my Maid/Matron of Honor, wore her shoes before the wedding to break them in. Didn’t bother me a bit.

    Post # 4
    169 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I wore shoes Id never worn as Bridesmaid or Best Man for my friend and so did 2 others, our feet were killing us by the end of the day. She should wear them as much as possible

    Post # 6
    3367 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I already told my girls not to buy anything for shoes (unless they REALLY don’t have anything that’ll match a turquoise dress). I said anything neutral like a brown, silver, or white would be just fine. Our ceremony is going to be on the beach and I’m getting them all barefoot sandals anyway. 

    But in terms of your situation? I totally agree that I would encourage them to wear the shoes before hand to break in so they don’t wind up having to take them off from being so painful at the wedding. 

    Post # 7
    8439 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @futuremrsmck:  Considering that my BMs are wearing dresses and shoes that they already own, no.  If they get it dirty, they’ll just have to get it cleaned.  I think it comes down to how picky you are about what your BMs look like that day.

    Post # 8
    4272 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    No. Its a good idea to break those in.

    Post # 9
    3182 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I totally wore my wedding shoes before my own wedding, and I told my girls to wear whatever shoes they wanted, so even though some of them bought new shoes some wore shoes they already had. I cannot imagine this being an issue in the slightest. 

    Post # 10
    9089 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I wouldn’t care if they wore anything (dress included) before the wedding.

    Post # 11
    4605 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    When it comes to shoes, if they’re new, those suckers need to be worn as much as possible. The dresses? Eh. I don’t think I would be that bothered either. I trust my BMs to have clean dresses for the wedding. 

    Post # 12
    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Wouldn’t both me at all. The dress might bother me, but shoes and other accessories they would be free to wear ahead of time. I’ll probably just give my girls a color for the shoe, and they’d be free to wear something they already own as well.

    Post # 13
    12246 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I was going to say no, they shouldn’t wear their stuff before the wedding… Then someone said something about breaking the shoes in, and I totally agree!

    Post # 14
    280 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    As a Bridesmaid or Best Man, if I purchased my own shoes for a friend’s wedding and they were cute and appropriate to wear with other outfits, then I would totally wear them.  Not only would I feel that they are MY shoes since I paid for them (thus entitling me to wear them whenever I want), but I would also want to break them in.  However, I would be conscious of the color and getting them dirty.  If they were white or a light color for example, then I wouldn’t wear them outside the house.  But if they were a color that matched some of my outfits, then yes… I would probably wear them lol



    Post # 15
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I remember a post about this a few months ago where the bridesmaid was wearing her bridesmaid dress to another wedding before the wedding. I think that’s a little strange, but she bought nice shoes and I think she has every right to wear them. I wouldn’t worry about her getting them dirty or anything. Most people take pride in their possessions and are careful with nice items of clothing (i.e. she isn’t going to get mud smeared all over them or prance around and break the heel off).

    Post # 16
    247 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @futuremrsmck:  my Brother-In-Law and SIL got pictures taken in his outfit for the wedding. that did bother me at first, but i got over it quick. if he got it dirty- he’d be the one looking gross; not me!


    by the way, he did get the tie dirty.

    it sat on their kitchen table, staring at me every single time i was there, with dried hotsauce on it for probably 3 weeks leading up to the wedding


    but i will tell you… it didn’t cross my mind one time on the big day!

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