(Closed) Would it bother you if your new e-ring looked like one from an ex?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I think that a princess cut solitaire with an eternity band is different enough from a round solitaire, that it wouldn’t bother me one bit! I think every woman has a ring style that she adores, and why let a bad man ruin your favorite style? 

Of course I may be biased, having a princess solitaire and planning on getting an eternity wedding band 🙂 

Post # 4
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

To be honest, it really wouldn’t bother me too much, unless the new boyfriend had seen a picture of the old ring and decided “LadyElva liked that ring! I’m gonna get her another one of them.” If the new guy liked the style independently of the the old ring, it would be fine with me.

Also, I remember your post about the CZ ring – I’m glad you got a happy ending! 🙂

Post # 6
10391 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I can’t imagine letting that bother me at all,  especially since you only wore the  CZ for three weeks.   Even if it were the  same exact shape and setting it  wouldn’t even bother me IF it was a classic, timeless, style and nothing unique to the ex Boyfriend or Best Friend.  

Post # 7
2903 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

My ex husband got me a round diamond and my DH  got me a princess cut  just so it would be different (but my Darling Husband really does like the princess shape better)…so yeah it would bother me some if they were both rounds because I would be comparing the two rings in my head all the time. That being said, my Darling Husband intentionally bought me a bigger diamond than my first husband…lol so…really… it matterd to him too. As far as  getting a solitaire with eturnity band combo or not…there are so many different styles of eturnity bands out there that can make a set look different if you wanted it to.

Post # 8
3638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Changing the solitaire stone’s shape will make it look drastically different because a solitaire is made to show off that center stone, so it’s all about that shape!. If you were changing from a round to a cushion, but with a halo and lots of bling, that difference would be very, very small. 

You are lucky! Liking a solitaire means that changing the centre stone will give you a very different look. 


But if you are still worried, what about changing the wedding band slightly?

Post # 10
1222 posts
Bumble bee

Having a similar ring is okay, IMO. I know that even if SO and I break up, I wil still love certain styles of rings: oval sapphire halos, diamond solitaires, Celtic designs. Honestly, there are so few rings I could picture wearing forever that if we ever did break up, I probably would still want the same style of ring. So no, I don’t personally think it’s wierd, and I think the two rings you’ve described are different enough that it wouldn’t really matter. However, it is a personal choice, and something you and your current SO must decide on for yourselves.


Post # 11
3638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@SnowInApril:  I did just google but the image led me to this post on Pricescope from 2008: http://www.pricescope.com/forum/show-me-the-ring/princess-cut-solitares-w-diamond-bands-t100616.html


It seems to be from Blue Nile but when I looked on their website I didn’t see it. However, the user on Pricescope still seems to be an active one so if you messaged her I’m sure she’d tell you the style number etc. Those girls love to talk diamonds!

Post # 12
2587 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

I wouldn’t worry about it! I remember your posts about your previous Fiance, and I think you’re well in your rights to just pick what you like and forget about him.

I’m glad things are working out well for you! I read your other post about gemstone rings, and I’m really pleased to see you managed to get your Grandma’s diamond back as well from your ex!

Post # 13
3424 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

yay! I am happy things have worked out for you:)  get what you like, Dont let the old relationship/ring affect your desicion.:) 

Post # 14
4476 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Solitaires are the most classic, versatile style, plus you didn’t have an eternity ring in your last relationship.  Don’t worry too much about it, get what you love.  Smile

Post # 15
6355 posts
Bee Keeper

It depends on how negative I feel about the memory.

There was (is) a ring in the family, a beautiful ring. I didn’t want this ring, or anything that looked like it, despite finding it very beautiful. I know the history behind that ring, and it disgusts me (the woman was cheating on her husband while still wearing it), and I didn’t want the ring that symbolizes my engagement to have anything to do with it.

I haven’t really broken up with exes on a sour note, so things that remind me of them don’t bring up negative emotions. Then again, I haven’t had anything similar to the experience you described. It very well might have significant negative emotions attached to the memory, in which case, I’d choose another style I like that doesn’t remind me of it.

Post # 16
2167 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@SnowInApril:  In my opinion, a round solitaire looks nothing like a princess soliatire. The two are entirely different so, to answer your question, nope…it would not bother me in the slightest.

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