(Closed) Would it have been disrespectful to not order prints?

posted 4 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 2
160 posts
Blushing bee

No, i don’t think that is rude. Many packages include a full CD/ USB drive of images, so i don’t think modern photographers expect to sell many prints. We will not be ordering prints because i can order them from a professional online lab for 1/4 of the price, but our package does include a full wedding album so that is were my photographer can shin. Also just a note photograph is my fiancees passion, so we are not like your mom, we do actually appreciate the art involved. 

Post # 3
8842 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

All the photographers we looked at offered the digital files separately, with no obligation to buy actual physical prints.

Post # 4
2517 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

WeddingBells2014:  I’m sorry you have to deal with your mother.  I would stop providing any kind of details and only tell her things she asks.  I know you didn’t ask for advice on your mum, but I do think it would help you view this situation differently if you didn’t have her overly negative opinion in your head. 

As for ordering prints.  My photographer told us right off the top that he can order us prints, but it costs him money and time and he ends up charging that back to us.  With all the printing services available he advised us to take our time and pick and choose our prints and have them done elsewhere (we have full printing rights as well.) I’m paying him for his time, his talent and his editing.  I’ll pay the print shop for the prints.  

It also means there’s no ‘package’ of prints to buy.  We can buy exactly what we want.  And we can print more whenever we like.  It’s win-win.  🙂  

I would definitely pay for the USB.  I wouldn’t pay for prints.  And I would totally give her a great review if you feel it was earned, especially if she’s still developing her reputation. 

Post # 5
3238 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I would have slapped my mom if she acted like yours. holy cow. 


If you want the prints, then order them. They sound lovely!

Post # 6
46899 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think photographers are quite used to couples choosing not to order prints for any number of reasons.

As far as your mother is concerned, her behavior calls for a little assertiveness on your part. She should not have been the one calling the shots (pun intended) with the photographer on your wedding day.

Post # 7
657 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I did not order any additional prints from my photographer. We got a 16 x 20 canvas as a booking special and another 16 x 20 because enough people commented on our engagement blog post. Other than that, we got a USB with full print rights and I just ordered from mpix.com and was able to get exactly what I wanted for way less than if I had ordered from my photog. I don’t think it’s rude – I paid a huge bundle for my photographer, so I didn’t feel the need to order anything additional.

Post # 8
3754 posts
Honey bee

While I don’t think it is rude to not order some prints I also think it is a really good idea to have some professionally printed photos.  The qualityof the printing can actually make a huge differnce to the final photo.  You will see a marked difference betwee the ones your photographer does and the ones you can have done at Walmart.  When you have already invested the money why not go the extra expense of having your favourite ones done with top quality printing?  You sound like you love your photos and your photographer was professional and talented.  You got a great result.  Your mother is just a bad case of “sour grapes”.  Good thing you didn’t go with her recommendation.  You probably would not have ended up with photos that you cherish and treasure….and most likely your mother would still find something to complain about!

Post # 9
790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Its not rude. That said, you seem to really love your photographer, show the love and order. Order some through her and do some on your own. Let mom go order where she wants… try to get her out of your head for this, its Your wedding photos You paid for. :)<br /><br />Can you imagine what the comments would be with the ‘free’ friend? ha ha

Post # 10
2691 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I do not believe it is disrespectful to not order prints if you do not want them.

That being said, if your mother is not paying for them and you want them and can afford them you should get them! She shouldn’t be so critical and you should just nicely explain that you appreciate her input but it is our money and this is how you would like to spend it.

Post # 11
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I don’t think it would be rude to just order the usb stick, she wouldn’t have made it an option if she wasn’t okay with it.  And the prices she charges now have no bearing on the prices she charged at the time of your contract. However, none of that really matters! You don’t need an excuse to order photos of your wedding!! You loved the shots and were pleased with the quality… so you ordered them!! Don’t let your mother’s opinion skew your happiness with them. Art is subjective and the extra $140 is a pretty small cost. (And expecting great pics from a amateur family friend is hardly ever a good idea!) 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 2 months ago by  SydneyRose. Reason: typos
  • This reply was modified 4 years, 2 months ago by  SydneyRose.
Post # 12
3691 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m coming up on my 3rd anniversary.  I would love to have had prints from the photographer, but still have not been able to afford any (my dad paid for the photographer).  I wish I had mine, but I don’t think it’s rude to not order them.  

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 2 months ago by  strawbabies.
Post # 14
1321 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

If you love the photos, then you will have no regrets with ordering them! That is an EXTREMELY reasonable price. You will have some wonderful photos of you and your new husband, and your mom needs to just lay off.

Post # 15
11642 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

WeddingBells2014:  we aren’t paying out of pocket for any prints.  The USB was included in our package and my mom bought us a $400 print credit (and another $100 was included in the package) all other prints will be ordered through Blacks or another professional print shop (not walmart – their colour is terrible)

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