(Closed) Would it mean as much?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Would a second wedding/vow renewal mean as much to you?
    Yes : (16 votes)
    36 %
    No : (28 votes)
    64 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    I don’t think so since vows don’t expire. Everyone has to decide what works for them.

    Post # 4
    5 posts
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I refused to get married until I could do it “right” by my standards. My fiance wanted to go to the Justice of the Peace numerous times, but I said no! I’m only getting married once. I want a nice church wedding.

    But It’s whatever the couple want.

    Post # 5
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    For me, no. I wanted one wedding and one wedding only. But everybody is different.

    Post # 6
    2588 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Nope. Our courthouse ceremony is our wedding. You wouldn’t believe how many people have been asking me, “So when are you having the REAL wedding?” EXCUSE ME?

    We bumped our date up for a number of reasons–my thyroid’s not doing so well right now and I need to see a doctor but have no insurance. Also, my grandma’s health isn’t great, and we want her to be with us to celebrate our marriage.

    We are, however, having a small reception the day after our wedding for immediate family only, but a bigger reception for his extended family and our friends (as well as my family) on 11.11.11, since we’ve already booked the venue. Just something informal and fun.

    Post # 7
    5262 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    For me, it would only mean as much if we were getting married early for what I see as a really valid reason – i.e., one of us needed it for insurance to deal with an illness, etc. 

    Post # 8
    1991 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    If it were me, yes…..

    I know many couples who have to do a courthouse ceremony for immigration purposes. ALL of them have told me that the “wedding” or “vow renewal” was just as meaningful, if not more meaningful, than the day they were at the court.


    Post # 9
    7689 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper


    Can you just change the date of the venue to earlier without loosing your deposit? It would seem -since you booked a 2012 date, you should certainly be able to move it up-I would think.  I looked at your inspiration board and it looks like you could do your casual reception pretty inexpensively if money is the issue for sooner. If I were you, I would look into having the whole thing sooner! 🙂

    Post # 10
    445 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Is there any reason you want to move the date up? If it were me (and everyone is different) I would just wait. I don’t think there’s much that would convince me to head to the courthouse early when I knew I was getting married in the next year and a half or so. You could definitely try to change your date if you really wanted to move things up, but I would just stick with the original plan…. it doesn’t hurt to wait!

    Post # 11
    542 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I am doing this exact thing and I have no regrets. I am getting married on Oct. 23, but we are doing a vow renewal in March. My little brother is currently in Afghanistan and my FI’s mother is undergoing chemo for breast cancer, so waiting until March until things calm down is our best option for a big wedding. However, we are currently buying a house and for other financial reasons, it just makes sense to get married now. Sooooo I am pretty much getting the best of both worlds and I LOVE It!! We were going to do a courthouse wedding first, but my Mother-In-Law wanted to throw us a simple ceremony and reception with just immediate family at their home, so we are going to do that. And it gave me an excuse to buy another dress (this one short and a bit more appropriate for a civil ceremony.)

    I would FULLY recommend doing it. I am excited because our second wedding will be a great way to celebrate being newlyweds and I really think it will prolonge that feeling of being a newlywed and the wedding-planning process.

    I totally say GO FOR IT!! But ultimately, do what is best for YOU!



    Post # 13
    297 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    somewhere on the hive i found a post by a bee who did her wedding at the courthouse… they spent something like $2000 for EVERYTHING if i find it again i’ll be sure to send you a link. but i think you need to do what’s right for you.  we’ve tossed around the idea of going to the courthouse… SO and I both think it would be great, but we also know our families would be super disappointed to not be a part of our big day.  

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