Post # 1
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Helper bee
I went shopping with one of the groomswomen today to look at wedding party dresses. Our bridesmaids and groomwomen are spread out accross the country so we figured we’d pick a color (we decided on apple!) length and fabric from David’s Bridal for the girls and they could handle their own dresses from there.
We had a very successful shopping trip and have finalized all the details for the girls :-).
While I had been looking up my size online this morning and saw an amazing new Oleg Cassini lace, off the shoulder, trumpet style dress. I’ve tried a few wedding dresses on before and thought this might look nice, so I tried it on while I was in the store. They did not have my size, so the pictures are in a dress that is at least a size smaller than me and I’m seriously short (4’10”) so it’s really hard for me to gauge how something might look once it is actually sized to fit.
In the store – I love it, but we got plenty of pictures and now that I look at them I’m afraid I just look short and fat. I’m a size 14 in DB (10-12 in street clothes) and feel uncomfortable with my weight, but haven’t had much luck losing weight so it may be smart to find something that flatters me as is, since I’m just never going to look like a model.
Post # 3
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Honey bee
I’ll be perfectly honest with you when I say I’m not a huge fan of the dress itself, and I think you could find something much more figure flattering.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
I think it looks lovely. Just needs to be your length then it will look perfect. I love the lace looks very romantic and classy!
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
@sweet5k: I think it looks great! I think fitted dresses make shorter women look taller- My friend just got married and she is 5″0 and wore a similar style dress and it looked great. I think this dress looks lovely on you, if you like it get it!
You may just be too critical of yourself 🙂
Post # 6
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Busy bee
@sweet5k: I think you look really pretty in that dress!!
On the weight issue I didn’t like where I was when I went dress shopping either. So I started weight watchers and went from a size 10 to a size 6 in about six months. The only person who has to be happy with your weight is you. I think you look good now, but if you want to loose weight there are healthy ways to do it that are obtainable. I’m not a young lady with a fast metabolism either, I’m in my thirties so I know it can be done.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
Thank you so far for the helpful replies – I’m sure in many ways I am too critical. This has helped boost my confidance about the dress!
I can understand some not liking the style of the dress, but I really wanted a lace dress and I also really wanted sleeves. I feel like this one does a great job with both, I’m more concerned of me in the dress. Obviously I won’t really be able to tell until it is made to fit me length wise, but in order to see that I’ll need to decide on it. However, that is true of any dress, not just this one…
@Treeline: Thanks for the advice, I’ve previously done weight watchers and had great success, maintaining a healthy (just slightly overweight) size 6-8 for years. Once I started grad school between the stress and the meal plan I gained about 20 lbs. and despite healthy eating and regular excercise since, it’s just stubbornly staying on. I’m giving myself until about Christmas before I order anything, so I’ve still got a few more months to try and lose the weight, but I’ve been trying for 2-3 months now and the scale just keeps telling me the same number.
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
First of all, let me say — you will make a beautiful bride, and that there are PLENTY of dress options out there that will work for you.
Total honesty time, though: I would not say that this dress is one of them. I think that dress, and most trumpet dresses, will be rather difficult to alter height-wise in order to make the proportions right, since you are on the shorter side. Additionally, I think you are really going to want a dress that defines your waist, whether that’s through the design (fuller on the bottom) or through accessory features like a belt.
I think I would use this dress as one data point, and keep experimenting with different styles of dress. I really think that you would knock a A-line or a ballgown out of the park! See if you can find some of the aspects that you like about this dress (the lace? the cap sleeves?) in other dresses.
Post # 9
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Busy bee
love the beck of the dress, dont like the neckline, I would do a modified sweet heart with a sash to define your waist….
Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I like it – I think it is very flattering.
Post # 11
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Helper bee
@sweet5k: Throw your scale out!! I lost 25lbs and have stayed put at that weight however I have still gone down a pant size! Scales are evil haha it’s how you fit and feel in your favorite jeans that I think matter. I also lost most of my weight by working out/ running and I also am in grad school and work two jobs my food habits go from bad to good all the time, so that is why I choose to run i could always fit it into my crazy schedule 🙂
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
I’m short too and I don’t think this would ne the type of dress for me. If you are uncomfortable now you won’t be happy during the stressful wedding
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
Stuff I like:
The fit of the skirt (not too puffy, big dresses can overwhelm shorter frames) and the way it shows off your shoulders and the color and fabric looks nice on you from what I can see in the pictures.
By The Way I don’t think you have a weight issue.
Stuff I think could be even better:
Consider adding a belt/sash as PP’s have suggested. That will define your waist nicely. I am ony 5’2″ as well so I hear you on shortness and sometimes alterations can be trickier. Because it is a trumpet, proportion is important and the seamstress needs to make sure it starts flaring out at the knees.
Neckline: One thing that gives the illution of height is a plunging neckline, or sweetheart. So you may want to consider that.
Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
@sweet5k: i think i would like to see you in other styles and silhouettes for comparison.
do you have any pics of the other dresses that you have tried on?
Post # 15
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Honey bee
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I think it looks slightly matronly, but dresses never look that great in the salons with the harsh lighting!
Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
@sweet5k: I love it, think it’s really pretty on you and flattering.