Post # 17
I can see why you love that dress! The neckline and sleeves really look great on you, and the lace is gorgeous.
My reservation about it is that the bottom of the dress just doesn’t show your figure to its best advantage and makes you feel like you’re too heavy. You are NOT! You have a lovely, proportionate figure and you certainly do not need to be dieting.
Two things I would consider…one, can that dress be alterated in length near the waist area? It’s too long in the torso right now, I think, and that’s making everything hit you in the wrong place. If alterations could hitch it all up a few inches, it would be much more comfortable and flattering for you.
Secondly, since you have time to look still, maybe see if you can find something with the sleeves and lace but with a slightly fuller skirt. I know you don’t want to get swallowed up by a huge puffy ballgown but a skirt that is more of an a-line or a more restrained ballgown would show off your shoulders, bust, and waist while giving you more height.
This is an example of what I would call a restrained ballgown. It doesn’t have sleeves, but I would suggest you try on something like this to see if you like the fuller skirt. I bet someone on the Bee will know where you can find a lace dress with sleeves and a fuller skirt if you decide you like the look!
Post # 18
Thanks for replying everyone – it has been very helpful to get objective opinions about the dress and wedding dress shopping in general. It’s also kept me from breaking down and asking my Fiance for his opinion.
I certainly hear the concern that this dress may not be the one best suited for my body – and I will keep looking, but I’m not ruling it out either as it has some of the hard to find details like sleeves, lace and a higher neckline that I love.
I can understand the dress being called matronly – but maybe that’s what I like about it? I’m a bit more conservative than most in my everyday style and definitely wouldn’t feel comfortable in a strapless/sweetheart neckline or deep V even though I agree, they probably would be better suited to my body. This is the first dress I’ve tried on that covers me up enough at my chest for me to feel comfortable, while not looking like I’ve just been swallowed by a huge dress. I think the form fittedness through the body might help there.
A huge plus about this dress is that it is offered in petite sizes, this means the bust to waist, waist to hips and hips to hems lengths will all be a bit shorter and I am sure the dress I get will be much better suited to my particular body in terms of length. It’ll still need to be shortened, but not as drastically and likely, not at the waist. However, the petite sizes need to be special ordered, so I can’t try it on until I get it and wait for it to come in….that’s a little too much left to chance for my tastes!
Perhaps I’ll see if on my next visit I can try on another trumpet dress in a petite size so I know how the sizing will change from regular to petite?
Post # 19
You can add sleeves to most dresses. What about a sweetheart neckline with a sheer overlay that starts higher up? The sweetheart will help the look and the overlay will help you feel more comfortable. You could add some random lace to the overlay.
I think those sleeves do not flatter you. You need sleeves that do not lay flat Look into petal sleeves.
All my suggestions can be added to most dresses, just look for the right shape and go from there.
Speaking of shape I think you should go with something more structured.
Post # 20
Also agree with the others suggesting a-line.
Not sure but the right slip underneath a dress like that might turn it into an a-line shape.
Post # 21
I really like it on you. Love the neckline. I think it’s one of those dresses that will look good regardless of whether you lose any weight or not.