Hey everyone. Maybe some of the girls on here can help me out. I am 26 years old almost done with college, finally! I will be graduating next August as a certified Welder and Fabricator. I guess not many woman can say they love to weld, lol. I am a mother to a son who will be 3 years old this Sunday. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now, and we just hit the two year mark. He is awesome. He cooks me dinner sometimes, takes out the trash, has done dishes for me, folded my laundry when I sometimes do not ask him to, and we do not live together now… But especially has taken care of my son, and has stepped up to be his sole role model as a dad. My sons father left when he was a year old, and has not seen my son since, and it will be two years in January. Its better that way, and my son is thriving wonderfully, since my sons biological father has a lot of personal and serious legal issues and now I am thankful for the man I have in my life currently.
I believe God gives you reasons as to why they happen, and I believe my son was given to me to meet this awesome guy. But anyways, to cut to my problem with being a MISS WAITING BEE, haha… After a year of me and my boyfriend dating, he knew he wanted to marry me. We want the same things in life, we like the same type of homes for sale, we hunt and fish together, so its important we keep the tad bit of hunting style in our future wedding plans, lol. He is the first man to ever be loyal and honest to me. He does what he tells me he is going to do. I have never been so lucky in my life, because the past 8 years, I havent been.
Over this past spring, he was going to propose to me at my parents fourth of july party, which by the way has a gathering of at least 100 people who are family and friends of my parents and my siblings. I told him I wanted to share it with everyone on that special day, and might I add the party is thrown at my parents cottage on a lake with a DJ 🙂 So, I thought it would be perfect! And then that would save me the time and energy of answering everyones questions about the proposal and so on. Sharing my deepest memories and surprises is important to me with my family involved.
One problem… Before he could propose to me at the party in july, we broke up in april and I moved out with my son. (which by the way I had no idea he was going to propose until we got back together five months later at the end of august and he told me when we got back together that he was going to do it.) We jumped into things too fast in the beginning of our relationship, and we started to lose focus on what was important between us which led to a lot of nit picking and all the little things that can lead you down the drain. But now we are back together, and he has understood what it takes to leave the little things alone, (which I already understood in the first place and I was the dumper, lol.) We are doing much better, and taking things a lot slower, and not living together at the moment.
Over the past four months, since august, it seems like my boyfriend has been dropping hints. This is what I need help on. When we got back together he sent me a text saying “I have already been ready to marry you, and told you when and where I was going to do it” only because I told him where I wanted it to happen, but he never verbally spoiled the surprise if you get what I am saying. Another hint he gave to me was this “Well there goes your surprise this christmas 2012” all because he bought me a beautiful ruby heart promise ring LAST christmas and over the summer I sold it because I didnt know we would get back together and thought he was mad at me so I didnt want to keep it lying around my house and having the emotional heartache of looking at it.
He said I hurt his feelings selling the promise ring he bought me. The other hint was that he told me to “be patient” after I wrote him a four page letter reguarding how important the engagement was to me… The facial expression on his face when he told me to be patient was absolutely gleaming… I mean when he looked at me, its almost as if he had that little kid twinkle in his eye with a slight corner smile on his face! But the problem is, is right now he is trying to buy a house, but the bank turned his offer down and he is going to try and give them a higher offer this time to see if it will go through. The next hint he told me was “Just let me get this house and we can go from there after” He is also on a major budget right now and has one debt to pay off his credit card, other than that he is debt free. I have been extremely patient with him, despite bringing it up a few times.
The next hint he gave me back in august of this year when we got back together was “Maybe after these 6 to 8 months, we will see… Or once you finish up this semester” That was after I asked him about what the plan was. I do not know what is up his sleeve, but it seems as if he is trying to look for a house and get me a ring at the same time. He told me this week that “I think about starting things everyday” So, maybe my special fourth of july engagement may be coming next month due to his hint of “There goes your christmas surprise” who knows….. Maybe some of you ladies can help me out, we are both ready for it emotionally, and I forgot to add that he is 29 years old with a six day a week job working for the union. So, he is trying to get things going, but who knows is a matter of when! Thanks guys.