Would men and women prefer a boy or a girl baby?

posted 2 weeks ago in Family
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Blushing bee

I’d want a healthy baby.  What’s the point of asking this question?

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We would choose a healthy baby as well. 

We had no preference on gender. After trying for more than a year, we really only cared that our Little One was healthy and we’d give him or her a good, happy life.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

I just wanted a healthy baby but if I had to pick I would’ve picked boy and my husband would’ve picked girl. We ended up with a boy and we are both very excited to meet him in the next week and not at all disappointed. 

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

OP’s first post.

Weird question. 

Almost every decent human would first and foremost choose a healthy baby. 

What are you hoping to accomplish with this post?

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

honeybabybee :  there are a lot of people who face painful struggles to conceive, I don’t think they give one iota about the sex of the baby

Post # 7
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Helper bee

honeybabybee :  in my limited experience most dads want a boy and most moms also want a boy, but some moms want a girl. Pretty rare I hear a dad want a girl but it happens 

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Helper bee

What is up with everyone’s sensitivity to the question? Just answer or don’t.

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Sugar Beekeeper

Um, a healthy baby. I did not have any preference. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Maybe it’s the glass of wine I just had on an empty stomach, but I’ll admit that if I could only have one child and got to pick, I’d definitely choose a girl. I’m really close to my mom, and while I know there are never guarantees, I’d prefer to get to experience that type of relationship myself. Additionally, girls are statistically less likely to have some of the common health issues facing children (autism and ADHD). 

In the real world that I live in, I’m obviously fine having either. I think a lot of our preferences come from the gender stereotyping that we do…plenty of girls hate their moms and plenty of boys think their moms are the greatest person alive and are close to them. Beyond that, we live in a great time where there are less rigid gender roles, so just because you give birth to a child with a certain type of genitalia doesn’t mean they’ll grow up to live out those stereotypical roles. A daughter could easily prefer to watch sports and play video games with her dad, and a son could prefer to read and cook with me (going for obvious stereotypes here, my husband and I are fairly non-traditional in our in-house gender roles in practice).

My husband, much like me, is happy to have either a boy or a girl, but would prefer a girl. He has zero interest in the typical macho “I want to carry on the family name” (girls can do that) or “I want a son to play sports with” (girls can play sports and enjoy them too). 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2021 - City, State

My fiance wants all girls.  We want 2, but even if we only had 1, he wants a girl, 100%.  I don’t know that I lean either way tbh. I think I probably do, but I haven’t looked deeply into it yet.  My dad would have preferred a boy, but got stuck with an only daughter. I think my mom wanted a girl.  Even now my dad would prefer a grandson to a granddaughter.

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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

honeybabybee :  There are several threads asking the same question because YOU created them tonight.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

honeybabybee :  definitely more moms want boys but idk how reliable this is, its just my limited experience 

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