(Closed) would our marriage even be legal!?!? (long)

posted 7 years ago in Legal
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

You definitely need the other witness. Our witnesses signed BEFORE the ceremony though, so they were “witnesses” to the future I suppose?! LOL! I think your Fiance is going to have to loosen up a bit on the compromise here otherwise there isn’t going to be a wedding!

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree with Bakerella, it makes no sense that he won’t budge on anyone else being there. Seriously, what is his problem??? Does he not realize that he wants you to basically do something illegal?  I just don’t understand why he won’t allow someone else to be there?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Have you told him about the witness situation (i.e. it won’t be legal if there are not witnesses?)

Post # 7
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753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Honestly it sounds like most of the compromising is coming from your end and not his.  You want a wedding, you should have one.  Yes, he’s been married before, but you haven’t.  I just think this whole thing is so selfish of him.  You have bent over backwards to make sure that you are going about this in a way that pleases him.  He ABSOLUTELY has to give on the second witness.  It’s not an option. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If you go to the court house won’t that be breaking the compromise that he desperately does not want budge on? It sounds like he is very paranoid and damaged from his previous marriage that he’s trying to do the complete opposite.
At least there was compromise but I would be so bummed if the marriage wasn’t legal because his paranoia.
Good luck!

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Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wait, why does he get to have his mother there and you don’t?!

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

The county may not “know”, but if you two were ever to get divorced, one of you could argue that the marriage was never valid in the first place, thus cutting the other one out of any money/property they may otherwise be entitled to from a valid marriage ending.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Mrs.Mittens: Honestly, this whole situation makes me really sad/angry for you.  You should at least get to have your mom there.  Does your mom know that she isn’t allowed to go? My mom would be devestated.

Post # 13
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686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Honestly, I think that he needs to work out his issues with marriage before you even bother worrying about the wedding or lack thereof.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Mrs.Mittens:He’s a jerkhole. Yes, I said that about my fiance. I love him, but he his hard headed and there is no leveling with him.

If I could say those things about my Fiance, I wouldn’t be marrying him. WHY isn’t your mom invited?????

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@bakerella: I agree!

It really sounds like he needs to loosen up some. It’s your big day, wedding or no wedding. You should be able to have who you want as a witness.

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