(Closed) Would the number of guests impact your decisions?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: If you were having a small wedding, which would you cut out completely?
    Sending actual invitations : (3 votes)
    3 %
    Setting up a wedding website : (34 votes)
    31 %
    Other : (11 votes)
    10 %
    Neither : (60 votes)
    56 %
  • Post # 3
    232 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I would still do the paper invites and wedding website regardless of the number of people attending. I’m having my guest RSVP online, so hence the need for the wedding website. The paper invites are a must, but you don’t have to do a wedding website but I think its nice to do.

    Post # 5
    3671 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    We’re having 20-30 people and we’re still doing paper invitations and still have a website.  Most of my fiance’s family is not good with computers or doesn’t even have one and it’s the same with a few people in my family.  Plus the invitations can get so pretty and it’s something we can keep in a scrapbook.  And I just found making a wedding website fun. Smile

    Post # 6
    317 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I will be sending invites and have a website. Most of my guests are anti-website anyway. 

    @Statutory Grape: I still think there’s something special, if only for a moment, about getting a paper wedding invitation.

    I’m with you on that one!

    Post # 8
    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    i would never cut out the actual invites, even if i was having like 10 people. i love getting mail and having something tangible to hold on to. as for the wedding website, i voted to give that up but that’s because i’m not even doing one for our 150ish person wedding. i work on websites for a living but have no desire to make my own. if i did one i’d end up going all out and spending way too much time on it, and i just don’t want to get started with it.

    Post # 9
    875 posts
    Busy bee

    I would send out paper invites no matter what!  Even if the only guests were your siblings… I’d want them to have a real invitation.  Those facebook electronic invites are way too casual for my taste.  I’d tend to think that the email was a save the date, and wouldn’t go to a formal event without a paper invitation!

    Post # 10
    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would still set up a wedding website, but mostly because I think they’re really fun to set up.

    Invites just shouldn’t be optional. You can at least send some form of a paper invite if you want people to travel to your wedding and probably bring you a gift.

    Post # 11
    713 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I think I would still do both for the fun of it! We’re making our own invitations for 100 people and I would do the same if we were having a smaller wedding. I wasn’t going to do a website at first, but the idea has grown on me.

    What sites are you guys using to set up your website? I’ve signed up for project wedding… but I haven’t done much searching. What’s the best one?

    Post # 13
    376 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We have 25 guests, and I sent STDS, pocketfold invites, and set up a website. 

    That said, I don’t think anyone besides my sisters and BMs have even looked at the website… and (SHAME!) I stopped updating/building it. Ours was on The Knot and honestly, i think the web address may have been too long for people. In hindsight, I may just do a pay site and get a good domain name. 

    Post # 14
    376 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @StautoryGrape: If you’re limiting +1s and other guests then I would totally put in an RSVP card. I think that physically crossing out the “we have ___ seats reserved for you” is sooo much harder than just typing in a number of guests online. I can totally see people adding their kids or casual date!

    Post # 15
    459 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I will have 35 guests at my wedding. We did have a wedding website, formal invitations, and save-the-date cards. I think having paper invitations is an indication of an event’s formality, not of its size.

    As for the website and save-the-date cards, we figured that the guests would still want to know details of what was going on–even if there were not that many of them!

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