(Closed) would this be disrespectful

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
945 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

You can have whoever you want give you away. If you and your dad haven’t had the best relationship then you are not obligated to ask him to do so. 

Post # 4
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I had this problem too.. I was just going to let mine walk me to avoid hurt feelings. Consequently, he’s not coming to my wedding and so I’m having my grandfather walk me.

If you are civil enough to have him attend, I would have him walk you. It would be very hurtful

Post # 5
1844 posts
Buzzing bee

it depends on your relationship with your father. If you haven’t spoken to him/he was never part of your life/you don’ tknow if he is even going to go to the wedding, then I don’t think most people would have a problem with it. Technically it is supposed to be a father figure giving you away, but I have known many brides who did not have a father figure growing up and instead used a grandfather, uncle, or son. it is not unheard of, but you have to think of how your family will react.


Post # 6
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Absolutely not! Now that you have a son, I think it’s more meaningful for him to “give” his mommy away than for your father to, especially if your relationshp with your father isn’t great. After all, if you were ever going to want someone’s “blessing” to marry your husband, wouldn’t you want it to be your son’s? 

Post # 8
282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would say that I would prefer the son if I was in your situation. I think that your father would understand. It makes more sense to have your son give you away, imo.

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