Post # 1
I’m looking for some advice from the Hive for my wedding.
We were originally going to do a courthouse/fancy dinner wedding in Seattle for about 10 people on Friday May 10th. As we started to put the guest list together, my Future Mother-In-Law freaked out and after and lot of back and forth we decided to move the wedding to Los Angeles, where both my Fiance and I grew up. This way family members with kids don’t have to travel and a lot more people can come, so it makes much more sense.
So here’s the thing: We are getting married at a really cute chapel and will have 50 guests (mostly FI’s family.)
We’ll then be going to a Middle Eastern restauranat about 30 minutes away where another 20 people will join us for a big family style meal including:
Pickled turnips and olives
Stuffed grape leaves
Jajek cucumber and yogurt salad
Fatayer cheese turnovers
Kofta ground beef and bulgar
Chicken, filet and ground beef lulah kabobs with onions and parsley, pita, rice and bulgar pilaf
Wedding cake, fresh fruit, Turkish coffee and a 2 hour beer and wine open bar.
I want to be a good hostess. Is this enough? I’m going to do small favors of maybe Jordan almonds or something.
Should I pay for everyone’s valet parking at the restaurant? Would this type of wedding be worth your time? All total it will probably be about 5 hours.
Any suggestions? I don’t want to look like I wimped out on the wedding.
Thanks so much Bees! Sorry this is so long.
Post # 3
I think the food sounds awesome, and I don’t think you need to worry about paying for parking.
Why isn’t everyone invited to the ceremony if it’s only 20 more people?
Post # 4
It sounds wonderful to me!
Not sure about valet parking; I think you do typically try to pay for that, but I don’t think it’s a huge deal if you can’t afford it
Post # 6
This sounds lovely. And PLEASE, don’t worry about “enough”. Your guests come to share in your day and to launch your married life by surrounding you with love and joy. THAT is enough!
Post # 7
Can I come to your wedding? But seriously, I think the food sounds great. I don’t think you need to pay for valet. I’m also curious who is coming to only dinner, not recetion, and why?
Post # 8
Sounds nice.Do you not have enough space to accomodate the additional 20 guests that are not attending the ceremony?
Post # 9
That sounds great! It is your wedding and you should do it however you want. People are not going to think any less of you and if it’s how you want it, that is how you should have it. They will understand you want to keep it lower key and that is very understandable.
Post # 10
THANK YOU all so much. I was driving myself nuts with this. Especially since I’ve planned it all in the last three weeks.
Yes, the chapel can’t accomodate the other 20 people. We booked it when we thought we were only having 30 people. It ballooned to 50 then to 70. So it’s pretty much immediate family and bridal party at the ceremony and then very close friends for dinner.
@Sunnybrook: Thank you! That really puts my mind at ease. I’m always worried about “enough.” 🙂
Post # 11
I know how you feel! I don’t want people to be upset or not impressed or think you’re cheap. I think that menu sounds amazing! Don’t change it!