(Closed) Would this be ok…

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Walk down by yourself. Carry a picture of your dad in your bouquet. My SIL did this and was very happy she made that decision.

Post # 4
2417 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

You could just walk down yourself. Or maybe you have an uncle or grandfather you may be close too?

In my opinion, I would NOT have your FIs father walk you down. As a guest, I would wonder what sort of tension there was between you and your mom and I think that will take away from the specialness of your day.

Post # 5
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think you should do whatever you feel best, though I kind of wonder how your Future Father-In-Law fits into the symbolism of “giving you away”…no one will judge you for your choice, and I think you should go with what will make you most at ease. Have you considered simply walking yourself down the aisle?

Post # 6
2285 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

I second the PP. 

Post # 7
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with the pp.  You can totally walk down by yourself!  Carrying a picture of your dad would be a great way to honor him.

Post # 8
9781 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

Walk down by yourself, I agree with PPs that having your Future Father-In-Law walk you down might seem a bit awkward to the guests.

Post # 9
2022 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think having your Future Father-In-Law would be fine – but I would mention it to your mom first.  That would be a sweet way to show how much you appreciate him.

Have you thought about just taking the trek by yourself?  You can just have the officiant skip the part that says “who gives away this woman?”.

Do what feels right. 

Post # 11
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think you should do whatever you feel right with, but agree with PPs, you can walk down by yourself. You don’t NEED someone to walk you down!

Another option is for you and your fiance to walk down the aisle together. My brother and SIL did this, as did my cousin, and I thought it was great. Both sets had also been building a life together beforehand, but I thought it was great. That said, I will be going the more traditional route. There are just so many options here!

Post # 12
2417 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

If you don’t like all eyes on you, walk half way down and have your Fiance meet you there?

Post # 13
1812 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

You could maybe borrow a Greek Orthodox tradition and walk with Darling Husband to the front.  When I got married, my now Darling Husband met me outside the Church, we then, along with the priest walked into the church together – I loved it.

Post # 14
2107 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@arsing89:  That’s a good idea!  Otherwise, maybe ask your other brother, but have someone keep him away until just before you walk down the aisle?  Who knows?  His questions might be a good distraction for you?

Post # 15
989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Love the idea of you and your Fiance walking together!

ETA: I walked by myself and I was completely freaked out about it.  On the day of, I was so happy and focused on my Darling Husband that I didn’t see anyone else. 

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