(Closed) Would this be rude?

posted 13 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Hey there!  I’m glad to hear there are some special people who’ve helped you out so much with your big day.  That’s awesome.

I think you should make some alone time just for the four of you, maybe the day before the wedding.  Take a while to just relax and chill with the lovely ladies who’ve proved their friendship throughout your engagement and will be right by your side during the wedding, no matter how hectik!

I have a bunch of family issues and am trying to figure out when to gift who and what to give them so I don’t start WWIII!  Uggh.  I’d give your special 3 their gifts separatley because it’ll quell friction and give you a moment to thank them genuinely without others (who can sometimes be so rude!) around.  I’m pretty much doing the same, making each round of gift giving private so people don’t get their tails in a knot and they know I am really showing appreciation for whatever they’ve done (big, small or abnoxious!) with the gift (and it’s price/meaning) that I chose.  Lol.

Anyways, good luck and I hope you’ll post pictures of the big day!

Post # 5
29 posts
  • Wedding: December 1969

Girl I feel your pain!  Bridesmaids are supposed to be supportive! I had issues with a "few" of my gals and I was in the same situation. I’m actually going to give them theirs at the rehearsal dinner. One of my Bridesmaid or Best Man I was annoyed with (who calls me her best friend from high school) has been M.I.A  over the year I’ve been engaged! She let me know a couple of weeks ago, that she wouldn’t be able to be in the wedding because of cost.  (all she had to get was a red dress, in her choice of style and cost, as long as it was flattering on her!)

I’m now giving the gift I had intended to give her to a friend that has been above and beyond helpful! In the end my flaky friend made the desision for me! Hopefully its as easy for you! Good luck!


Post # 6
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I dont think there is any rule of when you should/have to give the gifts.  Just do it whenever it is convenient for you–you could even have them sent to their rooms if you are all staying in the same hotel. You could go ahead and say, "I am giving you all different things"  which will alert any one of them not to run and tell the others–hey didnt you LOVE the (diamond brooch) we got.

Post # 7
17 posts
  • Wedding: December 2008

Not rude at all!  There is no rule that says you have to give 5 sisters the same gift, why would you have to give all your bridesmaids the same thing?

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