(Closed) Would this be weird? :(

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Busy bee

Ask her!  It will give you two a chance to bond 🙂

 

Post # 3
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Honey bee

 

Actually, I don’t think it’s wierd at all to have 3 groomsmen and 2 bridesmaids.

Also, the awkwardness of inviting a 3rd Bridesmaid or Best Man that isn’t close to you, just to “even things out,” would be wierder.

Just my $0.02.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i would feel bad asking someone to spend money on a dress, shoes, hair, makeup, travel, etc. just for the sake of filling a spot to make both sides even.

and no one is going to be judging you or making fun of you for having a small (or uneven) bridal party.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

we’re having 3 groomsmen and 2 bridesmaids. i think its about having the people who are genuinely special to you and have shared your life with up until now standing alongside you. I think it’s all about how you look at it; personally I feel super blessed to have two amazing best friends. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

It’s weird.They are not props they are people. They are going to be asked to sorbs money and time to support this request for absolutely no reason.Also read all the pposts about people picking bridesmaids that they regret.

 

 

 

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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honeybeebee2015:  Yes, that would be weird. My Fiance is having 6 GMs and I’m having 4 BMs, it’s really not a big deal and you have to decide what’s more important: treating the people in your life like people instead of props or you “vision” of what a bridal party “should” look like that won’t matter at all on the day of. 

Especially since this is your cousin I think you’d be putting her in a really weird/tight spot by asking her, I’m sure she’d feel obliged to say yes regardless of how she really felt. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I really don’t see a problem with asking your cousin to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. I do agree with the PP who suggests that it could put her in a tight spot if it is not something she is expecting or would be prepared for. Is there a way to feel out her potential responce, perhaps asking your mom or another relative to help. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I don’t think you should ask her to be your bridesmaid. Just have two. Could your fiance ask the third to be an usher instead of a groosmen?

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Does she know you already asked the other 2 ladies? If so, it might be awkward if she feels like a second tier invite. Just something to consider. Personally, I’d stick with my two close friends. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I had my Maid/Matron of Honor and no BMs. DH had 2 best men and another groomsman. 3 against 1, it looked fine and I’m usually obsessed with symmetry.

 

I think your cousin would feel obliged to say yes, even if she thought it was strange So I don’t think you should ask her. I would however, try to involve her as much as she wants in the planning process and try to become better friends with her. 

 

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I’ll be personally offended if I only got the honor to fill a gap in the photos.  

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I wouldnt ask someone I wasn’t close to. She may feel left out during the bridal party moments If she isn’t as close to you. I have three on my side and Fiance has 4. 🙂 it will be ok to be uneven 

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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honeybeebee2015:  We have ten bridesmaids & eleven groomsmen. I know that’s a huge amount but we have large immediate families and a lot of really good friends.

Yes, I think it would be weird and somewhat selfish to ask your cousin to spend money on all the bridesmaids stuff (dress, shoes, hair/makeup, etc) if y’all aren’t even close. Uneven bridal parties are so common these days. Like you said, it’s your wedding so you don’t HAVE to have an even bridal party.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I say ask her!!!! You want to bond with her and become closer right? This is a great time to do so! As long as you are not going to have crazy demands for your bridesmaids, this should be fun!

I had 10 bridesmaids and all but 4 were my husband’s cousins. I really developed a friendship with all of them since! 

 

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