Post # 1
So I’m thinking about my schedule for the day of the wedding and I’m trying to figure out when would be the best time and what would be the best way to greet guests. We are not doing a first look, and it’s a fall wedding so we only have so much time for photos before it gets dark. The photographer highly recommends that we take about 20 minutes once we’re done eating but the guests are still working on their food (we’re having a buffet) to go out and get some golden hour sunset shots. I would love to do this, especially because we wont have a first look, but that time is usually spent going around and greeting guests at their tables. I’ve heard of going and releasing the tables for guests to go to the buffet, but that would mean we wouldnt be done eating until too late. I feel like recieving lines after ceremonies annoy a lot of people and are kinda awkward and a time hog so I’m not too keen on that. My idea was after we get back from our golden hour photos outside and people are done eating, cutting the pie (we’re having pies and cupcakes instead of cake) and going around and handing out the desserts to each table. Possibly even bringing along some reddi whip to squirt on the pies if a person wants some. Would you find that weird as a guest? If so, any other suggestions on how I can properly greet each guest and still have our evening photos?
Post # 2
You are overthinking it. Have many guests will you have? Stopping and giving whip to each person will take a while and others might not appreciate waiting as you go around and serve dessert yourself.
Post # 3
You could always just walk around after and greet guests at the tables without taking the pie. I mean if that’s what you wanna do, totally fine, but I wouldn’t wanna be serving food on my wedding day. That’s just me! Lol.
Post # 4
personally I HATE when people come to talk to you while eating and frankly im an adult I dont need to be greated… the day is about you not me
basically dont sweat it, if someone is super offended that you spent 20 minutes having photos instead of extending an awkward rushed hello to them then its 100% their issue and they should probably seek help for it
Post # 5
It would be kind of weird for me as a guest, yes.
Post # 7
That would be weird and incredibly time consuming.
Post # 8
- Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse
I honestly think you should do what you want. Unless you are having a TON of guests, I think it’s fair to say there will be enough time throughout the day to have your guests come up to you. It’s like PP said, usually guests don’t feel the need to have you take time out to say hi. People can come to you, it’ll all work itself out
Post # 9
- Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond
Make your photos a priority… then decide with hubby on your plan of attack during the ceremony. Darling Husband and I didn’t talk before and wish we had but we each made it work. I made it a point to try to dance with as many people as possible and pull his family on the dance floor. He made it a point to try to visit each table for a few moments.
Don’t worry about treating people with desserts… plus you never know when guests will leave. Just try in your own way to say hello and thank you.
Post # 10
I think the sentiment is good, but it would be weird for ME for YOU to be serving me at your wedding.
Post # 11
I get the thought, but I think logistically it is going to not work in your favor in real time.
A wedding I just attended did this:
– after ceremony, guests did cocktail hour while bridal party did pics. After the bridal party did pics, the B&G ate separately from their guests very quickly.
– the guests were seated in the reception area
– DJ makes announcement of wedding party and B&G, they come in to their first dance.
– After that, DJ dismisses people by table to go through the buffet line. *At this point* that B&G start to greet people and talk. As everyone is going through the line and being called up.
After that, they also went and did some additional photos as everyone ate. Seemed to work out in everyone’s favor and they actually did get to eat!
Post # 12
Keep in mind that it takes a lot longer than you might think to actually greet all your guests. It took us well over an hour to go around to each table and great our 90 guests, and I think we may have even still missed a few people. People want to stop and talk to you and ask you questions, its not really a quick hi and bye. I would be afraid if you did this you would have tables of people waiting over an hour for their pie to come be served to them while your chatting it up with other guests.
Post # 13
It would be weird because you simply would not have time to do this. We went around after we finished dinner to each table and it took FOREVER! And we were just saying hi, not handing them dessert or anything. The problem is, you think saying hi will take 2 seconds but the guests want to talk to you and ask questions. So you’re at each table for like 10 minutes sometimes. At this rate, half your guests would never get dessert at all. We didn’t even make it to every table (we had 12 tables) because by the time we got down to the last 3, the guests had already finished dinner, gotten up, and started dancing.
Post # 14
I think a good alternative is to use dessert time to go say hello to people. Serving the pies yourself is going to leave a lot of tables waiting forever to get theirs, but if your venue staff serves while you go around chit chatting, that could work.
Post # 15
soon2bemrs10142017 : I went to a wedding like this! When the ceremony was done the bride and groom walked into the reception venue (same as ceremony) and greeted everyone as they walked in from the ceremony. Then they ducked out and got more pictures while we found our seats and got food.