(Closed) Would this be weird for you as a guest?

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
9539 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

You are overthinking it. Have many guests will you have? Stopping and giving whip to each person will take a while and others might not appreciate waiting as you go around and serve dessert yourself.

Post # 3
469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

You could always just walk around after and greet guests at the tables without taking the pie. I mean if that’s what you wanna do, totally fine, but I wouldn’t wanna be serving food on my wedding day. That’s just me! Lol.

Post # 4
2149 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

personally I HATE when people come to talk to you while eating and frankly im an adult I dont need to be greated… the day is about you not me


basically dont sweat it, if someone is super offended that you spent 20 minutes having photos instead of extending an awkward rushed hello to them then its 100% their issue and they should probably seek help for it

Post # 5
3209 posts
Sugar bee

It would be kind of weird for me as a guest, yes.

Post # 6
3905 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Nope. Not weird. 

Post # 7
450 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

That would be weird and incredibly time consuming.

Post # 8
2421 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

I honestly think you should do what you want. Unless you are having a TON of guests, I think it’s fair to say there will be enough time throughout the day to have your guests come up to you. It’s like PP said, usually guests don’t feel the need to have you take time out to say hi. People can come to you, it’ll all work itself out smile

Post # 9
1009 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond

Make your photos a priority… then decide with hubby on your plan of attack during the ceremony. Darling Husband and I didn’t talk before and wish we had but we each made it work. I made it a point to try to dance with as many people as possible and pull his family on the dance floor. He made it a point to try to visit each table for a few moments. 

Don’t worry about treating people with desserts… plus you never know when guests will leave. Just try in your own way to say hello and thank you. 

Post # 10
3335 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I think the sentiment is good, but it would be weird for ME for YOU to be serving me at your wedding.

Post # 11
2019 posts
Buzzing bee

I get the thought, but I think logistically it is going to not work in your favor in real time.

A wedding I just attended did this:

– after ceremony, guests did cocktail hour while bridal party did pics. After the bridal party did pics, the B&G ate separately from their guests very quickly.

– the guests were seated in the reception area

– DJ makes announcement of wedding party and B&G, they come in to their first dance.

– After that, DJ dismisses people by table to go through the buffet line. *At this point* that B&G start to greet people and talk. As everyone is going through the line and being called up.


After that, they also went and did some additional photos as everyone ate. Seemed to work out in everyone’s favor and they actually did get to eat!

Post # 12
2858 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Keep in mind that it takes a lot longer than you might think to actually greet all your guests. It took us well over an hour to go around to each table and great our 90 guests, and I think we may have even still missed a few people. People want to stop and talk to you and ask you questions, its not really a quick hi and bye. I would be afraid if you did this you would have tables of people waiting over an hour for their pie to come be served to them while your chatting it up with other guests.

Post # 13
6734 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

It would be weird because you simply would not have time to do this. We went around after we finished dinner to each table and it took FOREVER! And we were just saying hi, not handing them dessert or anything. The problem is, you think saying hi will take 2 seconds but the guests want to talk to you and ask questions. So you’re at each table for like 10 minutes sometimes. At this rate, half your guests would never get dessert at all. We didn’t even make it to every table (we had 12 tables) because by the time we got down to the last 3, the guests had already finished dinner, gotten up, and started dancing. 

Post # 14
115 posts
Blushing bee

I think a good alternative is to use dessert time to go say hello to people. Serving the pies yourself is going to leave a lot of tables waiting forever to get theirs, but if your venue staff serves while you go around chit chatting, that could work.

Post # 15
261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

soon2bemrs10142017 :  I went to a wedding like this! When the ceremony was done the bride and groom walked into the reception venue (same as ceremony) and greeted everyone as they walked in from the ceremony. Then they ducked out and got more pictures while we found our seats and got food.

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