Post # 1
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Blushing bee
would it bother you if it was one of the girls birthdays the night of your bachelorette party?
my Maid/Matron of Honor has been communicating details about the party for a few days now.
My fiance’s brother is also his best man and he lives in another state, So his girlfriend that he lives with is naturally coming down with him during that time. now she will be attending my party bc the boys will be going out on friday night and the girls will go out saturday night.
We found out that it is her birthday saturday night as well. And i know its definitely selfish of me to feel this way, but I am a bit bitter about this.
I know she can’t help that its her birthday. But this has been planned and and I just felt like this is going to be my only bachelorette party, it should be my night. Now i feel overshadowed by having to celebrate her bday as well that night. Ugh, childish I know.
I’m not going to say anything, or be a little baby about it the night of.
I was just wondering if i’m the only one who would be upset having to celebrate their bachelorette party with one of the other girl’s birthdays.
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
I’m a “the more the merrier” type of person, and I also like to be able to deflect a little bit of the spotlight, so I’d be cool with it. It’s ok if you feel that way…as long as you act gracious! As you said, she can’t help that it’s her b-day.
I’m sure it’ll be just fine. Have fun!
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
I wouldn’t like it, but it’s no ones fault so I gues I’d just have to suck it up.
Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
Has his girlfriend made mention that she wanted to steal your thunder or that your friends should be celebrating her birthday over your bachelorette? It may be her birthday, but she may likely just keep it quiet to give you your space!
Either way, it wouldn’t bug me at all. I don’t like being in the spotlight, so sharing it would be nice for me!
Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
i’m the more the merrier kind of person.
but why do you have to have a joint birthday celebration with her?
is she inviting her friends also to your b-party?
sounds like the gf is just joining your festivities. i would buy her a drink and acknowledge it is her birthday. even have everyone sing happy birthday but then stop there.
Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
Nope wouldn’t bother me in the least.
Post # 8
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Honey bee
She can’t quite change her birthday, and since your plans are already set, the only choices are: ask her not to come, let yourself feel bitter, or accept it and co-celebrate. There are going to be many, many occasions in life where you have to “share.” Maybe someone will get a big promotion and want to celebrate it on your birthday; maybe someone gets married on your first anniversary. There’s only 365 days in most years, and chances are someone will have a special occasion on each and every one of them.
Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
Wouldn’t bother me at all.
It was a guest’s birthday at our wedding so we sang happy birthday. People can’t help when their birthday falls.
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
@ajillity81: +1. Unlesss she is inviting all her friends, and there will be a birthday cake for her, it is not a ‘joint’ party. If I were you, I’d feel honoured that she chose to spend her birthday with you and your friends, rather than with her own!
Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
@sharky: No way! This is AMAZING!!! Bachelorette Party + Birthday Party = All the Drinks you can drink and CAKE!!!!
you ride this amazing wave of drunken fun sweetness….the fates only line up so often for a night like the one you’re going to have…go with it!
Post # 12
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Helper bee
@sharky: It’s not her fault, and it can’t be helped so you’ll have to forget about it. I would give this girl the benefit of the doubt that she’s got enough class to not try and be a spotlight hog and steal your thunder. Have FUN, and congrats!
Post # 13
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Busy bee
It would bother me just a little bit inwardly (even though it’s childish as you said!), but on the surface I would be fine with it. I wouldn’t be so inwardly bothered by it anyway that it would ruin my night. But yeah, I can understand feeling that way, even though I’d never admit it in real life!
Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I wouldn’t care, but I hate being the centre of attention…so, I’d actually be happy! I’d be like, bring on the bday cake!! 😀
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
But what’s the big deal? If it means THAT much get two cakes. Sheesh.
#firstworldproblems
Post # 16
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Honey bee
@Nona99: +1
…does OP not realize how many free shots their table is going to get all night?
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