(Closed) would this bother u?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
  • poll: would it bother you if it was one of the girls birthdays the night of your bachelorette party?
    yes, it would bother me to have a joint bday party with my bachelorette party. : (12 votes)
    18 %
    no, the more celebrations, the merrier : (37 votes)
    57 %
    eh, it doesn't matter either way : (16 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
    5955 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’m a “the more the merrier” type of person, and I also like to be able to deflect a little bit of the spotlight, so I’d be cool with it.  It’s ok if you feel that way…as long as you act gracious!  As you said, she can’t help that it’s her b-day.  

    I’m sure it’ll be just fine.  Have fun!

    Post # 4
    2625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I wouldn’t like it, but it’s no ones fault so I gues I’d just have to suck it up.

    Post # 5
    13249 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Has his girlfriend made mention that she wanted to steal your thunder or that your friends should be celebrating her birthday over your bachelorette?  It may be her birthday, but she may likely just keep it quiet to give you your space!

    Either way, it wouldn’t bug me at all.  I don’t like being in the spotlight, so sharing it would be nice for me!

    Post # 6
    8817 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    i’m the more the merrier kind of person.

     but why do you have to have a joint birthday celebration with her?

    is she inviting her friends also to your b-party?

    sounds like the gf is just  joining  your festivities.  i would buy her a drink and acknowledge it is her birthday. even have everyone sing happy birthday but then stop there. 


    Post # 7
    7387 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Nope wouldn’t bother me in the least. 

    Post # 8
    3885 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    She can’t quite change her birthday, and since your plans are already set, the only choices are: ask her not to come, let yourself feel bitter, or accept it and co-celebrate. There are going to be many, many occasions in life where you have to “share.” Maybe someone will get a big promotion and want to celebrate it on your birthday; maybe someone gets married on your first anniversary. There’s only 365 days in most years, and chances are someone will have a special occasion on each and every one of them.

    Post # 9
    7271 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Wouldn’t bother me at all.

    It was a guest’s birthday at our wedding so we sang happy birthday. People can’t help when their birthday falls.

    Post # 10
    1572 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @ajillity81:  +1. Unlesss she is inviting all her friends, and there will be a birthday cake for her, it is not a ‘joint’ party. If I were you, I’d feel honoured that she chose to spend her birthday with you and your friends, rather than with her own!

    Post # 11
    5956 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    @sharky:  No way!  This is AMAZING!!!  Bachelorette Party + Birthday Party = All the Drinks you can drink and CAKE!!!!

    you ride this amazing wave of drunken fun sweetness….the fates only line up so often for a night like the one you’re going to have…go with it!

    Post # 12
    482 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    @sharky:  It’s not her fault, and it can’t be helped so you’ll have to forget about it. I would give this girl the benefit of the doubt that she’s got enough class to not try and be a spotlight hog and steal your thunder. Have FUN, and congrats!

    Post # 13
    805 posts
    Busy bee

    It would bother me just a little bit inwardly (even though it’s childish as you said!), but on the surface I would be fine with it. I wouldn’t be so inwardly bothered by it anyway that it would ruin my night. But yeah, I can understand feeling that way, even though I’d never admit it in real life!

    Post # 14
    9681 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I wouldn’t care, but I hate being the centre of attention…so, I’d actually be happy! I’d be like, bring on the bday cake!! 😀

    Post # 15
    3420 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

    But what’s the big deal? If it means THAT much get two cakes. Sheesh.


    Post # 16
    4523 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Nona99:  +1

    …does OP not realize how many free shots their table is going to get all night?

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