(Closed) Would this bother you?

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

In all honesty, it probably still is a grandfathered bookmark.  Whenever I get a new computer, I just export all of my old bookmarks and put them on the new computer because I don’t want to go through and manually re-create them.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Heck yes, it would bother me. Maybe not so much if it was grandfathered bookmark, but since it’s a new(er) computer.. that’s just no beuno.

Post # 6
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588 posts
Busy bee

**** Proceed with caution **** Wink

If it is a grandfathered bookmark you could delete it and see if it reappears. If it does, then there is a problem.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I agrew with what 

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@Mrs.KMM: said.

also, when you say “build a website” I assume you mean he was coding it?  as a web designer, I constantly go back to past projects to reference the code and such, which helps me when I’m building new web pages.

(EDIT) I also like to revisit my old projects because I’m proud of them, and just want to look at them sometimes!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@Ms_Wonderland: totally agree with @FutureKMM. I do that too.. why to bother selecting stuff if I can simply copy and paste the whole thing?

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Yes, it would bother me. But based on your prior post (re him holding on to his ex’s ring), I don’t think that this particular incident is what is actually bothering you. There’s definitely something that is making you look for signs of your SO’s connection to his ex. Is it because he was holding on to her ring?  Or is it something else–maybe something he says or does? Or it could just be a case of your own insecurities.  I think the best thing to do is to really think about the root of the issue and then have a calm conversation with him.  Maybe you’re worried that he still has something for her, or maybe you simply want reassurance that he no longer has any connection to her and/or isn’t holding on to things (such as the ring).  If you address the root of the problem then you’ll feel much better.

Post # 10
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Newbee

@Ms_Wonderland:  That would bug me a bit too.  I would probably think, “oh, see, he loved her sooo much, not only did he want to marry her, he was enthusitically created a webpage… and look it is still there!”.

I would just casually ask as you weren’t exactly snooping.  Just ask if he exported the bookmarks as you notice it still there…..

OR, is it possible that he is getting ideas from it to do one for the both of you at some point?

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I would be upset, and I would definitely talk about it with him.  I think it’s important to understand that this is hurtful to you, and why you feel the way you do. 

 

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2012

How long have you guys been dating?  If he was creating the page for his wedding, he has to pay to keep it running.  If he still paying for it, something is wrong. 

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