Post # 1
I was using the SO computers to check my email (with his permission, he also uses my computer all the time to do stuff). I go to the favorites task bar since that’s where he’s stored the gmail link.
And I see that on his favorites (front and center) is the website he was building for him and his ex fiance, I think for their wedding (I’m not sure, since I didn’t click on the link).
Keep in mind that this is brand new computer that he got after we started living together so it’s not a grandfathered bookmark.
I know I’m over reacting a bit, but OMG I’m just tired of having reminders of her everywhere. We just got a new home and I thought with the moving and purging process, the memoribilia would be gone, but it still pops up. Sorry for the negative post. I think the waiting process has made me a bit bitter. I feel like I was much more confident and happy before I started “waiting.” I need to get back into that mindset.
Post # 3
In all honesty, it probably still is a grandfathered bookmark. Whenever I get a new computer, I just export all of my old bookmarks and put them on the new computer because I don’t want to go through and manually re-create them.
Post # 4
Oh right! I forgot about about that… :/ The bitterness has definitely clouded my more logical judgement at the moment.
Post # 5
Heck yes, it would bother me. Maybe not so much if it was grandfathered bookmark, but since it’s a new(er) computer.. that’s just no beuno.
Post # 6
**** Proceed with caution ****
If it is a grandfathered bookmark you could delete it and see if it reappears. If it does, then there is a problem.
Post # 7
I agrew with what @Mrs.KMM:
also, when you say “build a website” I assume you mean he was coding it? as a web designer, I constantly go back to past projects to reference the code and such, which helps me when I’m building new web pages.
(EDIT) I also like to revisit my old projects because I’m proud of them, and just want to look at them sometimes!
Post # 8
@Ms_Wonderland: totally agree with @FutureKMM. I do that too.. why to bother selecting stuff if I can simply copy and paste the whole thing?
Post # 9
Yes, it would bother me. But based on your prior post (re him holding on to his ex’s ring), I don’t think that this particular incident is what is actually bothering you. There’s definitely something that is making you look for signs of your SO’s connection to his ex. Is it because he was holding on to her ring? Or is it something else–maybe something he says or does? Or it could just be a case of your own insecurities. I think the best thing to do is to really think about the root of the issue and then have a calm conversation with him. Maybe you’re worried that he still has something for her, or maybe you simply want reassurance that he no longer has any connection to her and/or isn’t holding on to things (such as the ring). If you address the root of the problem then you’ll feel much better.
Post # 10
@Ms_Wonderland: That would bug me a bit too. I would probably think, “oh, see, he loved her sooo much, not only did he want to marry her, he was enthusitically created a webpage… and look it is still there!”.
I would just casually ask as you weren’t exactly snooping. Just ask if he exported the bookmarks as you notice it still there…..
OR, is it possible that he is getting ideas from it to do one for the both of you at some point?
Post # 11
@ Shirinjoon — that’s a good idea. You hit the nail on the head with the need for some reassurance…but I want more than verabl reassurance. I want something action oriented.
🙂 Well, all I can do is ask and hope for the best right?
Post # 12
I would be upset, and I would definitely talk about it with him. I think it’s important to understand that this is hurtful to you, and why you feel the way you do.
Post # 13
How long have you guys been dating? If he was creating the page for his wedding, he has to pay to keep it running. If he still paying for it, something is wrong.