Post # 62
I wouldn’t have a problem with this. If it was me that had to share a room with 3 other people, I might grumble a bit just because that’s a lot of people to share, but that’s a problem for your fiance, not you. As far as it being a dangerous situation, I don’t get that at all. I mean are you worried that they would all 4 get it on together? Or that he would get it on with one of the girls while the others are watching or sleeping or something? Honestly, I think it’s less concerning because there are 4 of them. If it was just him and another woman, I might not be as comfortable (thought I probably wouldn’t say he couldn’t do it). But you’ve got 2 extra people as buffers – what’s gonna happen with 4 people in the room?!?
Post # 64
Thank you everyone for the feedback; very helpful to get other perspectives. I apologize it was a bit confusing at first that this was all part of a work trip – the coworkers are his friends also (though coworkers first) and they chose to extend the trip and go away for the weekend. I have met all 3 of them on a few occasions, though don’t know any of them well. It’s not a matter of trust – I don’t think he would do anything – I just think that when you have a SO, it is not an appropriate situation.
Post # 65
This is one part that sounds weird to me:
“The two coworkers based where my fiance traveled to, the one coworker based in another state, and my fiance all decided to make plans for the weekend a couple of hours from the office he was visiting.”
If he doesnʻt know these people well, how exactly did it happen that they all connected to plan this weekend jaunt at the end of their work trip? That just doesnʻt make sense at all.
I also second FLBlonde93ʻs concerns about making appropriate career-related decisions. This is not the kind of discernment a future CEO or corporate leader might display. Regardless of any issues about potential cheating or not, this little side trip rooming with 2 women could backfire on him in a number of ways.
Itʻs just dumb. I would have strongly encouraged my man not to do this, but then he would never have come up with such a ridiculous idea in the first place.
Post # 66
Both Fiance and I have had roommates of the opposite gender before and those never resulted in anything physical or romantic. As a result, we’re both okay with each other sharing hotel rooms with members of the opposite gender as long as we know those people and know that it’s being done due to saving money. I’m attending a wedding in 2 weeks that is stretching my budget and this is the only way to do it. So to me, this situation is fine, but you have to have a lot of trust in each other.
Post # 67
I was in sort of the same situation- my SO was sent on a business trip with a female coworker and a few weeks before I found out that they were sharing a room (two double beds). I was honestly in disbelief that this would even be allowed and pitched a fit about it (it doesn’t help that his coworker could legitimately be a model). The next I heard, they had two separate rooms.
Post # 69
Additionally, my husband would never agree to an arrangement like that. It’s just weird. What’s the purpose of it? To save a few bucks?
Post # 70
@anonymousemiss: It wouldn’t and hasnt’ bothered me.
I couldn’t care less.
IF my husband wanted to cheat on me, he’d be smarter then to do it while sharing a room with 2 other co-workers.
I agree that you shouldn’t put yourself in a situation that could get you in trouble. I just don’t see this as that situation.