(Closed) would this bother you ?

posted 4 years ago in Married Life
Post # 46
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1056 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

It was a long time ago and he was alot younger. I would let it go.

Post # 47
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Ugh I think u need to live and let die..

This was his PAST, it was a long time ago, the decisions his ex made has nothing to do with him except maybe that he supplied the drugs which really who cares? She would have gotten it from someone else either way..

I think ur being unfair about his past. Is there anything you have done in high school or college u regret? I’m positive there is and I think that just because you don’t necessarily like that drug doesn’t mean it has any bearing over his life now with you.. You would be very foolish to revisit this dead issue IMO. I think u should let it go…

Post # 48
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Bumble bee

If you knew this detail before you married him, and you still married him, you kind of need to shut up about it.  It was a long time ago, and if you are going to be with him, you need to dismiss his past.  I’m sure he feels silly enough having to rehash it with you.

If you didn’t know this about him before and are just finding out now, you either need to get over it or leave him.  

I can’t stand when people bring up the past.  I had one too.  I made some huge mistakes before Fiance, and I can’t imagine being with him if he held it against me.

Unless he’s still dealing, you need to let this go, bee.  

Post # 49
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Speck_:  nailed it. I fully snorted when I read your responses 😂

OP, you replied saying he isn’t remorseful and doesn’t regret it. Good on him, it’s done and it had nothing to do with you. What would you like him to do? Pray for forgiveness at your feet? It’s not for you to forgive. 

Post # 50
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m in the big f-ing deal camp.  This was almost 20 years ago!  Why are you bothered by it NOW.  So by this logic, recreational drug users and sellers are all just awful people that should always be punished for their actions even after they stop?  I had pain killers from having my wisdom teeth removed, maybe even vicodin, and hell, I mentioned jokingly about selling it too… cept I wouldn’t know the first thing about how to sell drugs. 

Post # 51
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - City Hall!

You said that he doesn’t seem to regret it. 

Why would he? He didn’t get caught. He probably made a crap ton of money for a 22 year old. And he supplied his friends with something they did, which they liked. 

Who cares? It’s 17 years ago. 

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