Post # 1
My DH’s aunt and uncle invited us over this weekend to see their house and stay since we have not been to their house since they moved it a couple years ago. They invited us to stay in one of their guest rooms. It’s like a 3.5 hour drive for us. When the rest of the family found out we were going they all decided to come down today as well for the day so we could all hang out. They live closer to his aunt and uncle so were going to just come for the day, but then once they got here they decided to all stay over (like an extra 7 people). So now instead of sleeping in a bed and having a guest room to ourselves we get to sleep on a thin air mattress at the foot of the bed and his grandmother and great aunt will sleep in the bed of the same room. We are currently trying to inflate the airmattress with a faulty pump which has been trying to inflate it for 15 minutes so far. I’m just exhausted and annoyed and want to go to bed. This kind of thing seems to be a recurring theme with his family.
I know this isn’t a huge deal but ugh I can’t help but feel frustrated. Would anyone else also feel annoyed?
Post # 2
What an imposition on your hosting aunt and uncle and on you too. If the other family members live so close, they should just go back to their own homes.
Post # 3
A bit perhaps, for a few minutes. Longer if grandma and great-auntie have to get up to pee three times each.
Post # 4
I would be very frustrated and annoyed. The exact same thing happens to us in both of our families. Because we’re the least likely to complain, we get the short stick. It drives me crazy. But, I usually do not say anything about it because it’s not worth it. I might one day, but so far I just vent to Darling Husband about it the whole way home. I am sorry! I feel your pain 100%!
Post # 5
Thunderstorm : yes!!!! This is it exactly! Including them inviting themselves to our house for weekends and bringing extra people when we have a small house with not enough space to host them with proper sleeping places. I love them dearly but it drives me bonkers!!! And last time we went to his dad’s house we had to share a room with Brother-In-Law, SIL and their 1 year old child while we slept on an airmattress. Honestly I’d rather just stay in a hotel when we visit his family at this point but Darling Husband is afraid we will offend them. I honestly am over it!
Post # 6
It would be frustrating so we would high tail it to a local hotel. Is that an option? They can’t blame you for not wanting to sleep on an air mattress
Post # 7
theatrejulia : it is now midnight so no 🙁 they stay up late and make last minute decisions about things. And they would definitely give us major side-eyes and make it a big deal.
Post # 8
hollyberry4 : well, you’re in it for the long haul with these people. In future I would suggest planning ahead and making sure you know where the closest hotel is. When they start talking about where granny and auntie Edna will sleep – graciously say ‘oh you take our bed granny – we’ll head down the road to a great hotel I heard about. I don’t want to put the hosts out – they were only expecting 2 guests – do we’ll let you stay.” Then run out the door before they can object.
you might end up paying more than you expected a few times – but it likely won’t happen more than once or twice.
Post # 9
It would bug me. When I found out that there would be no bed for me, I would have gone to a hotel. I don’t think it needs to be a big deal, but I just would rather get a good nights sleep and not feel annoyed. So leaving the situation and turning it into something fun would have been my choice.
Post # 10
How is everyone just deciding to stay? Does eveyrone just bring a change of clothes and toothbrush and everything just in case?? Cause I know for sure that if Im planning to visit someone for the day, I’m sure as hell not ready for an overnight and would rather go home and be in my bed and have all the things I need to get ready for bed and get ready in the morning. And yes… this would piss me off! I’d be like well if you dont want to go home to your bed, give me your keys and I’ll go sleep in it instead of this airmattress!
Post # 11
I’d be pissed. I do not enjoy sleeping on air matresses or staying in overcrowded houses. I wouldn’t make a huge deal of it but I would get a hotel instead of just sleeping on an air matress.
Post # 12
I would be annoyed and mad if I was in your shoes. I dont blame you at all for getting frusterated. Thats a little akward and definatly crossing a line.
Post # 13
You are supposed to sleep in the same room with your husband’s grandmother and aunt? On a thin blow up mattress with a broken pump. That is ridiculous.
In your place, I’d already be driving the three and a half hours home or would head to a hotel or as a last resort, my car. Any chance that the decision for the others to stay over has anything to do with drinking?
As for extra people being invited to sleep over your house, in the future make it clear that next time they are not to invite additional guests without your permission.
You don’t have to be rude. Just make it clear that you prefer a real bed and some privacy. If they are offended, they are the ones being unreasonable.
Post # 14
I would probably make a joke in the morning about feeling achy and getting too old for the air mattress, and that you’ll have to start getting a hotel room!
But personally I would never ever sleep on the floor in the same room as my Darling Husband grandma and aunt. Idc about feelings when it comes to that, I would have left!
Post # 15
This has happened to us a few times so we started booking a local hotel 2 mins drive away. Initially it was not well received but I said we wanted a good nights sleep prior to driving back. Now it’s expected and no one mentons it.