Post # 16
Thanks so much for the advice everyone! It’s good to know I’m not majorly overreacting. In DH’s family this kind of thing has always been normal and accepted — no one seems to mind. However, this has never been my norm and I really need my own “space” (at least for sleeping!) and despise being crammed in bedrooms like we are in college. Darling Husband doesn’t mind it too much since it’s what he is used to so it’s sometimes a conflict for us but he does understand why I don’t like it.
We are currently TTC so maybe that will be a good point to take more of a stand. I’m not going to slee in overcrowded houses when I’m pregnant or have an infant, that’s for sure! Now I’m laying in bed waiting for the bathroom since there are tons of people wanting to use it lol.
Post # 17
I wouldn’t mind sleeping on an air mattress, but if I were told at the last minute that I’d be sharing a room with two other people I would be OUT. I would rather go to a hotel or drive 3.5 hours home.
Post # 18
hollyberry4 : Oh, honey, go to a hotel!! Get a good night’s rest!! Who cares if anyone is offended – you have done nothing wrong!! This will set a good precedent for future visits with baby in tow!
Post # 19
Good grief I would be so mad. It is totally disrespectful to you as the wife. Put your foot down and don’t let this happen again. It would be hotel for me. I think that’s weird to expect you to bunk up like 10 year olds. In the room with aunts and grandma’s. Eeewwww.
Post # 20
hollyberry4 : I would be hella annoyed. Why can’t they all just go home and then meet for breakfast the next day?
I mean, no, it isn’t a big deal but it’s annoying. I get the whole family situation. My fiance’s family is similar, but maybe worse.
Oh well, get an inexpensive hotel next time. It would be way more comfortable.
Post # 21
not the same exactly but my dad owned a house and I would stay there part time (divorced parents shared custody)
it was a 4 bedroom house… he had the 2 biggest rooms (one as an office) which was basically an annex, he rarely used the rest of the house so he often let other family member live in the 3rd medium sized bedroom if they where struggling (happened often, his family are crap with money and complete moochers) and then I had the tiny bedroom (just big enough for a bed and even then the door wouldnt fully open, any smaller and it would be easily classed as a cupboard) which was ok because it was only 2 days a week and I moved a few things in to play with when there on weekends (mostly books and drawing stuff because there was no room and a few teddies for on the bed)
things where fine at first (and family members from grandparents to aunts and cousins came and went) for years it was ok but then things suddenly changed I started noticing my stuff had been used, damaged or gone missing and the family members living there at the time said I must imagining it (I was pretty annoyed HALF my personal stuff was distroyed and some missing) and it kept happening
then one day I went over to find a strange kid distroying MY stuff (that my mom had bought and id brought to feel more at home in my OWN dads house) it turned out the family member who was staying there (rent free) was regularly babysitting their god child and just letting them distroy my stuff
insult to injury, when she saw me stood there with my weekend bag she then asked in a condicending tone ‘I dont know where you expect to sleep but it will have to be on the air mattress because *timmy* had that room now’
erm… no, I expect to sleep in MY bed, in MY room in MY dads house with MY stuff as per common sense and the court order ffs im his only child, your a 2nd cousin and this kid isnt any relation to us at all
‘family’ always think they can get away with the rudest behavior no one kicks me out of my bed though… I like sleep to much
Post # 22
Yep, I’d be annoyed too. It’s one thing if it was planned, another entirely if everyone else jumped on the invitation.
Post # 23
- Wedding: May 2018 - City, State
Ooooof yes I’d be mad.
FIs family invited us to join them at the beach one summer. I agreed to go with the promise of a bedroom. We got there at there were 3 bedrooms for 5 couples (and we weren’t getting one). I get where you’re coming from and you definitely have a right to be mad.