Would this bother you?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 46
43 posts
  • Wedding: March 2018

One of my former employee’s is Melinda, but everyone else calls her Mindy.  She even refers to herself as Mindy about 3/4 of the time.  We have worked for the same company for 5 years, and I am just now coming around to calling her Mindy–occasionally!  I think it’s more a matter of not being 100% sure of the formality within an office, the particular person’s preference for the nickname and just becoming more used to be around someone and seeing how they fit their name.  I still can’t see Melinda as a Mindy, but that’s MY deal, haha.

i would not give this a second thought.

Post # 48
3093 posts
Sugar bee

I disagree with another poster who states that if anything is bothering you, that you should bring it up to your husband. There are some things that you gotta ask friends or your girls about (or, like in this post) IF you are aware that you have had an issue (like this insecurity issue you have for instance) that may be unsubstantiated or based on your paranoia if your man has given you no reason to be. Do NOT question him on why he is now calling Samantha ‘Sam’. This is not a ‘gut’ instinct that something is going on. In fact, you snooped through his phone and found absolutely nothing. I suspect this is not the first go around for you either. There are some things that are simply your issue that you need to figure out (whether it be through counseling, prayer or any other medium that helps you).

To answer your question, this is TOTALLY a non issue. What I would encourage you to focus on is why you are so insecure about something so mundane.

Post # 49
226 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Totally over reacting. There is clearly noting to worry about. My name is Melanie and every calls me Mel. Friends, coworkers, family, even parents of the children I work with. I am not havinh an affair with any of this people. The only people that call me Melanie are the children I work with or strangers I meet.




Post # 50
373 posts
Helper bee

Does not matter if you were overreacting or not, those are your feelings, an wrong or not you are entitled to them. I am very glad that you finally approached the topic head one and had an honest discussion. He clearly did not mean anything beyond it being a name, and this help assuage you.

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