(Closed) Would this bother you?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2759 posts
Sugar bee

Not really. He tried his work number and got his business partner, who he knows from them using the business bank accounts together and probably figured that’d be the fastest way to reach him. It seems pretty logical to me.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t think it would bother me. If it’s all work related, then it makes sense for the guy he does business with to call his work partner and not you. He probably feels more comfortable talking about money and work things with the partner. Maybe he didn’t have your FI’s cell number and that’s why he called the partner. Either way, he probably sees them both as equals in the business, since they call themselves partners.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@fireNice:  I don’t know the details between the accounts and the business, but I can see why he would let his partner know that an account is overdrawn. If he owns the business, then it is probably important that there is always a cash flow. I don’t think you can compare sharing financials between business partners with sharing financials between co-workers. 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Looks like I’m in the minority, but this would DEFINITELY bother me.  It’s a personal account, so it should stay just that: personal.  His friend could have said to the business partner, “hey could you have Mr. FireNice call me?”  Then the friend could just tell him personally, without the middle man.  Seems easy enough to me!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think it’s a big deal.  It’s business.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Bichon Frise:  This.

Plus banks don’t just go around giving out people’s information. Either his business partner and the work friend have been given access to the accounts by your Fiance or the business partner is listed as a co-signer on the account, allowing the bank to give him access. Personally I’d be thankful that he gave you a heads up so you didn’t come back to a ton of fees or bounced items.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

A business partnership is an intimate relationship. I think that is completely normal. His partner probably does and should know all the details of his financial situation. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@Grizz:  I agree.  The partner had to have some clearance to receive the information and I’d be a little embarrassed but totally grateful to know, even if it meant an associate told me!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think what most of the PP’s are missing is… This wasn’t a business account from what OP said. This was a PERSONAL account of Mr. FireNice. It has no ties to the business! I would be a little miffed too!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@RoyalLime:  No I understood it was the personal account that was overdrawn, but the partner must have had some sort of clearance in order to find this out.  OP said the accounts must have gotten mixed up, so somehow the business guy had to let the OP’s Fiance know and perhaps he just got a hold of the business partner first.  

In any case, it would not bother me, especially if it’s my SO’s account and it doesn’t seem to bother him.  If it were a joint account, then yes perhaps it would bother me, but in this case it’s just her FI’s

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@RoyalLime:  I know she said it was a personal account, but the fact that the business guy and the work partner knew about it means that he gave them access to his account information. I don’t know the background, but it seems like his personal account must be tied in with his business somehow. 

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