Post # 1
So last night my DH and I started in our wedding thank you’s. I went through all the cards again and noticed that most of his side, his mom, sister, aunts, and his moms friends didn’t address the cards they gave to us.
They just signed their names. I’m not sure why this bothers me, I just feel like it’s impersonal to not put “Dear My name & Husbands name”. My DH says he doesn’t think anything by it, but like I said, it just irks me a bit. Would this irk anyone else?
Post # 4
It wouldn’t bother me. People do things different ways, and that seems like the norm for them.
Post # 5
It didn’t bother me, but that’s because I don’t necessarily do that.
Post # 6
Not really…personally I’m not a card person. I don’t keep cards and I don’t send/give them. I mean sure if I’m giving someone money/gift card/check I’ll give them a card. But honestly some people just aren’t into the sentiment of writing who it’s to or a personal message. The card kind of says it all…
Post # 7
No, it wouldn’t bother me.
Post # 8
No, it wouldn’t bother me. I doubt I’d even notice if they did address them to me or not. I guess I figure I already know who the card is TO, the important part is who it’s FROM.
Now, if they would write a personal note in the card, that’s different and always very special. But just writing Dear __________? I don’t see it as a big deal. In fact, I very rarely see that on cards I receive. Maybe it’s a regional/cultural thing?
Post # 9
I doubt I’ve ever put a person’s name inside the card. I put their name on the envelope and it never occurred to be to write it again on the inside. I doubt they meant anything by it.
Post # 10
I would definitely think it was odd. I guess that is because I would never give anyone a card for any occasion without writing their name(s) and a message. It seems like that is the way his family does things so I wouldn’t be offended, but I am with you on thinking it is a little rude. I mean, what exactly is the point of giving a card if you are just going to sign your name?
Post # 11
I agree with MarizipanMrs! I would be a little irked. It is a little impersonal but I am a huge card person and would never send anyone a card without a personalized message. I totally agree…what’s the point of giving a card if you just going to sign your name. It seems like a signed gift tag signed be sufficient.
Post # 12
Nope. Don’t sweat the small stuff. And this is REALLY small stuff!
Post # 13
I dont see the big deal about.. I probably wouldnt even notice something like that
Post # 14
I do not see the point of giving cards unless they are funny (and actually funny, not the same cards that have been trying to mascarade as humor for years).
I am not good with words and do not write a personal message in any card other than sympathy cards. Mostly cause I have no idea what to write. “Dear name,” how is that personal? “congratulations?” its probably already on the card. “Have a great life together?” in my voice it feels sarcastic. They addressed the card on the envelope and they gave it to you, what good does the “dear name” do?
Maybe it makes sense to card people, but to me the point of the card is what it says on the card (I take a lot of time picking out cards) and so that you know who it is from.
You can be irked if you want, but I hardly think it is rude. They gave a gift and a card and I bet they meant whatever is on their card. Some of us are not writers. Not only would I have a hard time coming up with something to write that didn’t sound trite, but you’d never read my handwriting anyway!
Post # 15
Ooh… I don’t think it would bother me. I always try to write a message, but usually I don’t include the people’s names. And many people just aren’t good at cards or don’t feel its necessary to do anything but sign.
Post # 16
I don’t think it’s a big deal, it just really stuck out to me when I saw the no names, just not something I am used to seeing. My family and friends are way big into cards though. The cards from the friends and extended family, It made me feel like that don’t even know my name ( which they don’t) and they still came to the wedding, which is fine, but at least take the time to find out my name