Post # 1
I have two bridesmaids and one Maid/Matron of Honor and thought I was making life easy for everyone when I told them that they could select whatever dress they want, as long as it was same length, fabric, colour, designer so they still looked cohesive. There are lots of options within that designer yet now I have a problem where my one bridesmaid and Maid/Matron of Honor want the same dress, and my other Bridesmaid or Best Man has picked a style that’s totally different. It would be fine if the MOH’s dress was different, but I think it might look a bit weird to have the Maid/Matron of Honor and a Bridesmaid or Best Man in the same dress and one Bridesmaid or Best Man in a totally different one. The problem is that the Bridesmaid or Best Man who has picked the same dress as my Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister and is going to throw a total tantrum if I tell her that I would like her to pick a different dress. And I also can’t ask my Maid/Matron of Honor to pick a different dress because it’s the only one she’s actually comfortable in (it’s more covered) whereas my sister is comfortable in any style (I’ve seen her wear them all). So what should I do? Just let them both wear the same one or ask one of them to change their minds?
Post # 3
Put the girl in the different dress in the middle of the other two. It won’t look strange – don’t worry! It’s not worth the stress.
Post # 4
I would, but my sister has already had a huge tantrum that she’s not the Maid/Matron of Honor, so if I move her further down the line she’s going to explode. She’s younger so she doesn’t really understand the it’s my day and she should be respectful of my decisions part.
Post # 5
so give her a choice – for aesthetic reasons, she can either choose a different dress, or stand third at the altar. Don’t phrase it that way, of course – phrase it as, “Well, I was going to have you stand second, but if you and Maid/Matron of Honor are wearing the same dress and Bridesmaid or Best Man is wearing a different one, it’ll look awesome if she’s in the middle so it’ll be every other dress!”
On her own initiative she can switch dresses or stand third. 🙂
Post # 6
oh good idea thanks! That way I’m not telling her what to do so I won’t have her lose it on me lol, she can make up her own mind 🙂 Brilliant, thanks so much!
Post # 7
I’d let them wear the dresses they want but try and “distinguish” them in other ways. Is it possible to have the two bms in matching wraps and bouquets – and have the moh in something different? Maybe even have to two bms wear their hair up or down (as long as it’s the same) – and have the moh’s hair completely opposite?
Also, how are they walking down the aisle? Is it possible to have the two bms walk together and the moh walk on her own – distinguishing her from the others?
Whatever you decide, good luck!