(Closed) Would this make you uncomfortable?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 61
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88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I would just bring it up very casually “hey so and so was messaging you quite a bit after you fell asleep, is everything ok?’ 

 

Because there is the religious and work element, it could be anything. She may also be having a hard time at work or something and they might have discussed it at bible study. If that’s the case, it may seem like he’s a natural person to speak to if he knows the situation.  

If you bring it up in a way that isn’t accusatory, I’m sure he’ll be happy to talk about it. Besides if it was something a bit sinister, he’d probably hide his phone/put her on do not disturb or something. Leaving his phone on the bedside table or wherever mid-conversation means he probably isn’t trying to hide anything. 

Post # 62
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5883 posts
Bee Keeper

Ballet Parker and KareKoosh both have excellent posts, I agree this girl is actually using her vulnerabililty to stroke his ego & get closer to him. I feel bad for her if she is truly this needy and wanting a shoulder to lean on- but you don’t pick the shoulder of a married man! You just don’t.

 

Post # 63
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656 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Sukii:  I didn’t say that she wanted OP’s husband’s d*ck. I said that her reaching out and becoming vulnerable with him wasn’t appropriate And could be the beginning of an emotional attachment. If I needed someone to talk to, it wouldn’t be a married or taken man. It would be another woman,  my SO or a professional. If someone was suicidal (which, talk about jumping to conclusions!), I would direct them to a professional immediately. I don’t think you are naive, I think I (and most of the other people who responded) just disagree. And yes, I think that the first person the OP should be taking to is her husband. 

Post # 64
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2746 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

KareKoosh:  I wasn’t the original writer of the post. I probably misled you by my comment on your suggestion. I just thought what you said was so intelligent, well worded, well thought out, & very productive. 

Post # 65
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131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Country Club

If smily face emojis are being used between your husband and a girl, that would make me extremely uncomfortable. There’s nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex but it sounds like they’re flirting.

Post # 66
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453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

BerryAnonymous:  This would bother me for sure!!!  I don’t like it!

Post # 67
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266 posts
Helper bee

Peanut-Sue:  How dare you lead me on like that…. 😛 jk yeah I totally misread haha! 

Post # 68
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

KareKoosh:  hee hee ♡♡ – you’re smart & witty…double threat girl!

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