Post # 1
At work I was talking to this one lady about my wedding. Everything was great until she asks “so are you going to have more than one dress for your wedding?” this was RIGHT AFTER I showed her pictures of my dress. I politely said no.
She then proceeded to say “oh you should go to this store…they have wonderful reception dresses you can wear”. Again I politely said I wasn’t thinking of wearing a second dress. But of course she didn’t stop there, she kept telling me stories of all these friends she has that had 2 dresses (one for the ceremony and the other for the reception). And to top it all off, after we left she texted me a link to these cute party/reception dresses.
Was this her way of telling me my dress is ugly and a need a second one? I’m on a very tight budget. My mother is helping me pay for my dress and veil because I simply cannot afford it. I can’t even phanthom (spelling?) the idea of wearing another dress like that after my mother is paying for it with her hard earned money, it just breaks my heart. Plus my wedding dress is my dream gown, I want to wear it as much as possible! I found this a little offensive >:-(
Post # 3
Sounds more clueless than offensive. I would brush it off if I were you.
Post # 4
Yea I have tried…but it just popped into my head and i kept thinking about it. Anyone ever say this to you?
Post # 5
No, it wasn’t. It was her way of sharing the big trend of wearing two seperate dresses. Dont take offense to it.
Post # 6
@Floridian Belle: I completely understand you! And I would brush it off, she sounded more clueless than anything else, she didn’t really understood when you several times said politely no to her suggestions..:S
Post # 7
She’s just an office busybody. Not offensive. Just likes running her mouth.
I’d keep the details of my wedding quiet around the workplace. Most co-workers are not close friend’s; they’re co-workers. And when you bring up a topic, that gives everyone an invitation to start talking about it.
PS the word you were looking for is “fathom.”
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s offensive, just annoying. Brush her off and ignore her. People don’t know when to mind their own business.
Post # 9
I have a friend like that. Once she gives you a piece of advice (even if you haven’t asked for it), she will nag you until you give in. Right now she is on me about the bathroom baskets, and when I told her I wasn’t doing them, she sent me a whole LIST of what should be in them and marked off the ones she has already. She then listed the price of all the other items so I would know how much it was going to cost me. Some people just don’t know how to take “no” for an answer becaus they feel they know more than everyone else about every situtation.
I wouldn’t be offended, just ignore her.
Post # 10
I don’t know what she was getting at, but I could see why you are thinking this. Ignore her! Wear your dress all night! I, like you, couldn’t imagine changing out of my wedding dress. You can always wear a party dress anywhere!
Post # 11
I wouldn’t be offended, I’d just think she was easily influenced by other people’s opinions and ideas. You don’t have to be! Forget about her.
Post # 12
I agree with the more clueless than offensive comment. She just seems to really like the second dress idea. Wear your dress all night with pride!
Post # 13
I am wearing my dress for the entire time! No second dress for me, why pay for a wedding dress for 30 minutes, only to change it to another one?
Post # 14
Ditto the other ladies, not meant as offensive, just clueless. Don’t worry about it!
Post # 15
@fishbone: This was exactly what I was thinking “Office Busybody” I had one of these at my office who knew nothing about my dress (for this reason) and kept trying to tell me what type of necklace and earings I should wear!! Even offered to loan me a set she had!!! She had never (and did never) see my dress. She just liked to stick her nose in and wanted to let me know that …..anything I could do she could do better. Idiot!
Post # 16
I don’t think she was insulting your dress, she just sounds obsessed with the idea of wearing two. Weird to be sooooo pushy, but probably she didn’t mean anything by it.