(Closed) Would this "unplugged" wording irritate you as a guest?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should we use this wording for an "unplugged" ceremony
    This wording wouldn't irritate me-use it! : (29 votes)
    50 %
    This wording would irritate me-you should modify it : (17 votes)
    29 %
    You should spread the word through your parents instead of using this announcement : (12 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
    1134 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    personally, i think just the second paragraph should be fine!

    Post # 4
    1063 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @Jen51287:  Agreed, I’d just politely ask them to turn off their cameras and cellphones.  The rest of it is overkill imo.

    Post # 5
    1097 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I didn’t vote because none of the options applied. It wouldn’t irritate me persay, but it should be modified. I think it’s too lengthy for such a short announcement


    Bride and Groom name here 🙂 — want you to be able to really enjoy their wedding day, feeling truly present and in the moment with them. They’ve hired an amazing wedding photographer who will be capturing the way the wedding looks — and they’re inviting each of you to sit back, relax, and just enjoy how the wedding feels.


    They respectfully ask that everyone considers leaving all cameras and cell phones off during the ceremony. Of course they will be happy to share their professional wedding photos with you afterward!

    The bolded line is awkward. I would just have the officiant say something short and sweet to this effect before the ceremony:

    “We request that you please turn off cell phones and cameras during the ceremony.” 

    Post # 6
    2625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I agree with the PP, the second paragraph is plenty!

    Post # 7
    7646 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I think it is ok, but like @Jen51287:  said, I would just used the second paragraph. Maybe say something like, “Because the couple wants you to relax and enjoy their special day, they respectfully ask that that everyone……….” And so on.


    Post # 8
    218 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We’re just having our officiant come out a few minutes before we start to ask everyone to turn off their cell phones. For our group, I think that will be enough to get the message across.

    I complete understand wanting to explain a little more, but I think the simpler you keep it the less it’ll feel like you’re talking down to them. For that reason I agree with PP about just using the second paragraph.

    Post # 9
    1893 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @FarleyNish:  IMO i would reword:

    They’ve hired an amazing wedding photographer who will be capturing the beautiful ceremony- So please capture this special time with your hearts..



    Post # 11
    2587 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

    This wouldn’t bother me at all. I went to a wedding recently where the officiant said something similar, but there was also a point in the service – where they signed the register – when they announced it was okay for us to take pictures, which was quite nice.

    Post # 14
    2704 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @FarleyNish:  want you to be able to really enjoy their wedding day, feeling truly present and in the moment with them


    Those types of lines have always bothered me.  It always comes off as a big narcissistic to me – like my wedding is so important and magical that you shouldn’t focus on anything else.  I know this isn’t how you feel, but, for me, that’s the taste that’s left.   I totally understand wanting to have an unplugged ceremony though, so I vote to get rid of the first paragraph and keep the second – the second is perfect, (just replace “they” with your names).

    Post # 15
    5219 posts
    Bee Keeper


    I agree with PP’s-cut the wording down.

     As a side note, I’ve been to plenty of weddings, been IN plenty of them and have been married once before. I find that photographers like to use that line of you don’t want Aunt Sue standing up blocking our shots! to persuade people to purchase THEIR photos from their business as opposed to guests having their own. My photographer asked if I cared if she “moved” someone that was in the way, and I said “ do what you gotta do”, but these “ unplugged” ceremonies have little to do with the actual iPAd and more to do with control ( whether that be from the bride and groom, photographers, wedding coordinators, etc).

    IMO, if you’re going to mention it, make it short and sweet.

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