(Closed) Would this "unplugged" wording irritate you as a guest?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should we use this wording for an "unplugged" ceremony
    This wording wouldn't irritate me-use it! : (29 votes)
    50 %
    This wording would irritate me-you should modify it : (17 votes)
    29 %
    You should spread the word through your parents instead of using this announcement : (12 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 20
    3570 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @FarleyNish:  I think it should just be:

    Good evening. We request that you please turn off cell phones and cameras during the ceremony.  Of course ‘Bride and Groom’ will be happy to share their professional wedding photos with you afterward!

    This line is so awkward, particularly the use of “considers” and the wordiness of it:

    We respectfully ask that everyone considers leaving all cameras and cell phones off until the ceremony has concluded  


    Post # 22
    10363 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I find these messages irritating because I know* that “being present” isn’t the reason…it’s because people don’t want ipads and iphones ruining the wedding photos. It seems….fake to me.

    Post # 23
    2454 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    @Mrs_Amanda:  While part of it is yes, they want you to buy pictures from them, a lot of it is to cover their business and create a portfolio.  Posed shots are nice, but it’s those instant “in the moment” shots that make them stand out.  That, and it’s really hard to photoshop Uncle Doug with his new iPad out from the background of your first dance.

    OP, I’m going to go slightly against the grain and say none of what you wrote is condescending or rude or fake or anything.  It’s a polite request.

    Post # 24
    3449 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Unplugged events don’t bother me in general. It ONLY bothers me because of the “we want you to be fully present” wording that I tend to see. I’m an adult don’t need anyone to police how present I am at any given event. If your concern is you don’t want folks taking pictures or you don’t want phones ringing during the ceremony, then say that. I’d happily oblige. 

    The most polite wording I’ve ever heard for such a thing was “please set your phone to a setting that will not disturb others.” And it was an announcement, not a sign. 

    Post # 25
    5219 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @Apple_Blossom:  That I understand, but I also think weddings are more than just a photo op. Unfortunately, these days it is more about the perfect Style Me Pretty  picture than it is about the realness of the ceremony/reception.

    Post # 26
    2454 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    @Mrs_Amanda:  True.  But I think that gets back to the whole “in this moment” debate.  So many people are overly attached to their own phones and cameras trying to capture the perfect moment, they don’t see the real thing in front of them- just the image on the screen.  It’s kind of sad.

    So I would be one of those people who would ask others to be fully in the moment.  It’s not cause I’m being disrespectful or treating you like a child.  It’s because I’m tryin to get you to not worry about catching the perfect moment without actually living it.

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