- 3 years ago
- Wedding: May 2002
Just write back. AWKWARD
Just write back. AWKWARD
I really thought this stuff only happened to me. After Darling Husband and I officially changed our statuses on FB to “engaged”, I got a message from a guy I dated for 2 months in college (10 years ago), which basically said that, except for the insinuating it was too soon part. I knew he recently had gotten divorced, so I was pretty sure I knew where the obvious bitterness was coming from. I just said thank you for your good wishes and concern and moved on. Some people just can’t help raining their negativity on other people’s parades…
Someone’s a little salty about their divorce. lol
Agree with everyone else – what a crappy thing to do, and it means absolutely nothing. For the record I know someone who married a guy like a month after she met him and they’ve been married like 15 or 20 years.
Oh my god the social awkwardness of this message is so intense I’m afraid I’ll pull something cringing. I’m guessing this is that dude at parties who traps everyone in incredibly uncomfortable conversations about his ex-wife.
I’d probably write back with “who are you?”
only got together a year ago? I’ve been married to my husband for 17 years and we got engaged after knowing each other 4 and a half months. Not saying I suggest that for everyone, but good grief.
She mentions she has had a experience with marriage- Is she in family court over a issue or something?
If anything, I guess I just wouldn’t send her a invite to the wedding. If she asks why, I’d remind her of the post and just tell her that you didn’t think she’d have a very good time. But you’re not me, so it is up to you. But I wouldn’t take this too personally. Everyone’s got a jaded attitude on things and sounds like this is her thing.
I’d still love to hear what her story is that makes her so quick to give this advice.
nurseybee55 : I would definitely roll my eyes, but I wouldn’t let unsolicited advice from an acquaintance upset me.
I had a handful of people tell me “marriage is horrible” (or some other weird, negative tidbit of info) when I first got engaged and I always thought it was strange.
nurseybee55 : that is sooooo odd and inappropriate. That is one of those things where you have to realize that the problem is with that person and NOT with you. If they are emotionally unstable and miserable with their lives then they should deal with that without speaking out about things they know nothing of. At this point I would delete this person after telling them to fuck off and just keep living your life- dont think about his outburst ever again.
nurseybee55 : also, one of my ex close friends who was with her (now) fiance then boyfriend for 7 months said “wtf you knew i was trying to get engaged this year” as her message to me when I got engaged after being with my now husband for 6 years and had known eachother for 10 & living together for 4 years. It doesn’t matter how long you are together- some people are just miserable, self absorbed, know nothing assholes and theres nothing you can do about it other than to remove those people from your life entirely and go on with yours.
Way to go!! Delete and block is the way to go!! Talk about bitter and jealous!!!
Sounds like the poor guy has “issues”. Ignore the message and revel in the joy of being newly engaged.
I would totally send an “awkward” gif back to him!! LOL
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