(Closed) Would this upset anyone else?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 61
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2002

Just write back. AWKWARD 

Post # 62
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8918 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

nurseybee55 :  Glad you came to your senses. No reason in the world to be upset by someone who is barely even an acquaintence at this point. Congratulations!

Post # 63
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

nurseybee55 :  It seems like he may have had a failed marriage? I would just say “thank you for your concern. Hope you’re doing well” and leave it at that.

Post # 64
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I really thought this stuff only happened to me. After Darling Husband and I officially changed our statuses on FB to “engaged”, I got a message from a guy I dated for 2 months in college (10 years ago), which basically said that, except for the insinuating it was too soon part. I knew he recently had gotten divorced, so I was pretty sure I knew where the obvious bitterness was coming from. I just said thank you for your good wishes and concern and moved on. Some people just can’t help raining their negativity on other people’s parades…

Post # 65
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Someone’s a little salty about their divorce. lol

Post # 66
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Agree with everyone else – what a crappy thing to do, and it means absolutely nothing. For the record I know someone who married a guy like a month after she met him and they’ve been married like 15 or 20 years. 

Post # 67
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Oh my god the social awkwardness of this message is so intense I’m afraid I’ll pull something cringing.  I’m guessing this is that dude at parties who traps everyone in incredibly uncomfortable conversations about his ex-wife.

I’d probably write back with “who are you?”

Post # 68
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Newbee

nurseybee55 :  Don’t let him make you upset; it is SUPER WEIRD that he did this to you, but also, he obviously has his own issues and that’s where this message is coming from- his OWN problems. I might block him though if I were you. 

Post # 69
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Busy bee

only got together a year ago? I’ve been married to my husband for 17 years and we got engaged after knowing each other 4 and a half months. Not saying I suggest that for everyone, but good grief.

She mentions she has had a experience with marriage- Is she in family court over a issue or something?

If anything, I guess I just wouldn’t send her a invite to the wedding. If she asks why, I’d remind her of the post and just tell her that you didn’t think she’d have a very good time. But you’re not me, so it is up to you. But I wouldn’t take this too personally. Everyone’s got a jaded attitude on things and sounds like this is her thing.

I’d still love to hear what her story is that makes her so quick to give this advice.

Post # 70
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Helper bee

nurseybee55 :  I would definitely roll my eyes, but I wouldn’t let unsolicited advice from an acquaintance upset me.

I had a handful of people tell me “marriage is horrible” (or some other weird, negative tidbit of info) when I first got engaged and I always thought it was strange.

Post # 71
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

nurseybee55 :  that is sooooo odd and inappropriate. That is one of those things where you have to realize that the problem is with that person and NOT with you. If they are emotionally unstable and miserable with their lives then they should deal with that without speaking out about things they know nothing of. At this point I would delete this person after telling them to fuck off and just keep living your life- dont think about his outburst ever again.

Post # 72
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

nurseybee55 :  also, one of my ex close friends who was with her (now) fiance then boyfriend for 7 months said “wtf you knew i was trying to get engaged this year” as her message to me when I got engaged after being with my now husband for 6 years and had known eachother for 10 & living together for 4 years. It doesn’t matter how long you are together- some people are just miserable, self absorbed, know nothing assholes and theres nothing you can do about it other than to remove those people from your life entirely and go on with yours.

Post # 73
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Way to go!! Delete and block is the way to go!! Talk about bitter and jealous!!!

Post # 74
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Honey bee

Sounds like the poor guy has “issues”. Ignore the message and revel in the joy of being newly engaged.

Post # 75
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I would totally send an “awkward” gif back to him!! LOL

 

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