(Closed) Would this upset you?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@monalisa670: ugh – you entirely have a reason to be upset..early birthday present?? i hope he meant for himself !

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’d probably be a little pissed off, too. Just keep it in stride. It’s one of those crappy things that happen, but not worth being too upset over for too long.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

Not only would it upset me, I would throw the book in the fireplace. Since it IS your book. Problem solved.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I just want to make sure I understand. He said he was doing something for you, but then came home with a book for you, but he’s the fan? Do you like the celebrity/author at all? I’m usually pretty laid back, but yeah, I would be irked he couldn’t have just told the truth about what he was doing.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@monalisa670: Aw, I’d be a bit miffed too. To go from bumming that he’s going to stay late at work to being really excited that he’s being sweet and getting you a gift, back down to finding out it was more for his own selfish reasons would make me mad, too. I think that it’s good he apologized, but yes, you deserve your own time to get over it, since an apology doesn’t just make you *poof* feel better.

Maybe tomorrow or the next day, when you’re less upset, talk with him about why you were so hurt.  Let him know that had he invited you to come along or even just said ‘oh wow, I really want to stay after work and go to this book signing, have a night out w/ the girls’ or something, that would have been much better than fronting (and making it seem like it was for you…come on now, Mr.). Have some ice cream or whatever it is that makes you happy, and realize that he made a mistake, he didn’t really realize how not-smart it was, and he means well (he did apologize, after all). 

ETA- You can always stay out late getting a pedicure, and come home and tell him you painted your toes and had a girls day, but it was ‘for him’. ๐Ÿ˜‰ That can be your birthday gift from him.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Men and women think differently. I don’t know how he can rationalize this , even to himself, but that’s obviously what he tried to do.

Forgive him, tell him NEVER to pull such a stunt again, and move on.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Like the others said- yeah, I would be pretty annoyed.  Not really super “mad” per se- well, maybe for that day.  But mainly just pissed and annoyed that he could be so clueless.  Hell, if he had just texted and said “Hey, my favorite celebrity is in town and I want to get her autograph” then I wouldn’t care at all, but the fact that he said it was for you, when it was actually for him (yeah, he gave you the book, but it’s like when Homer simpson gave Marge a bowling ball that said Homer on it) is the annoying part.   Just one of those annoying things that I would just have to get mad then brush off.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I’d be slightly annoyed probably, but not bawling uncontrollably. I’d probably have tossed the book and told him he’s taking me to my favorite restaurant.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would be highly annoyed. I would wonder why he didn’t just ask me to go with him. And also why he thought that would be a good gift for me?!
On the up side, I heard her book isn’t bad.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Well, he didn’t think about your feelings until after the fact.  He attempted to lie, but then felt bad about it and came clean, kind of. (at least he told you the truth later) But I’d still be irritated and need some time, that is so ridiculous to lie about, just admit you wanted to meet her in person, don’t say your working late, BIG no no, why don’t men understand this?

And, I think you deserve a REALLY awesome birthday present now ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

The curiosity is killing me! Who is the celebrity?

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I would be super upset not because he went but because he tried to say it was a surprise for you!  I am curious who the celebrity is?

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