Post # 1
As I’m starting to interview photographers, I’m trying to figure out how to plan the entire day. Our wedding day is on the same day as the local fair and thought we should bring the two together. So here’s what I came up with. Let me know what you think:
1:30-2:30: Nupitual Mass (note: this and 11am are the only two times we can get married at church so please don’t suggest a later ceremony start because we can’t)
2:30-3:30: GAP! Guests can stop by either FI’s grandmother’s house or our house for pre-reception lunch (and to avoid the July heat)
3:30-5:00: Extended Cocktail Hour
9:00-11:00: Post-Reception at the local fair which will include fireworks at 10pm.
I really want to start the reception later but I’m worried about the heat, especially for the kids and over 50 crowd. So instead of ending it later, we’re giving enough time for the kids to enjoy the fair, the older people to go home, and the younger crowd and Out of Town guests to spend time with us after the reception.
Do you think everything is tacky or should I extend the gap? I want our day to be memorable not only for us but for everyone. Should I mention the post-reception party at the reception or a couple of days in advance so guests can be prepared if they go or not. I might even reconsider my theme so we stick to this plan.
So what do you think?
Post # 3
I went to a wedding with that EXACT timeline! It was fine, EXCEPT…
THERE WAS NO FOOD OR DRINK AT THE “EXTENDED COCKTAIL HOUR”. Please don’t do that to your guests! It was HORRIBLE!
Post # 4
Can you start the extended cocktail hour even earlier? One hour doesn’t seem like enough time to make it worth going to someone’s house. If you started cocktails at 3 instead of 3:30, that gives everyone a few minutes to mingle after church before heading to the reception, and frees both you and your fi’s grandmother from the chore of recieving a lot of guests on the same day as your wedding. Even better if you can start cocktail hour early, and start the reception early, to keep things moving along.
Post reception isn’t tacky at all; would be fun as an optional activity although you may wish to go with a very relaxed dress code— sundresses for the ladies, dress shorts for the men, stuff like that— so folks don’t have to tote around an extra change of clothes or deal with their nice clothes at a fair.
Post # 5
As long as you provide for your guests, I think this would be just fine (and actually sounds like quite a bit of fun!) Anyone who knows you well enough to be invited should realize that you’re Catholic (if not, the word “Mass” in the invitation might clue them in) and most people realize that Catholic weddings almost always have a gap.
Post # 6
@BrandNewBride: Oh don’t worry there will be food and drinks! It’s included! I won’t do that to anyone. That’s why I added a pre-CH lunch at his grandmother’s or our own house (it’s down the street from both the church and reception) as well in case anyone is hungry, need to go to the bathroom, freshen up, or/and stay out of the heat while catching up with family and friends.
Post # 7
@fishbone: We would since the reception is behind the church. However, not to sound greedy, we would like extra time for pictures. Grammy’s house is just a suggestion for the OOTs (it’s his suggestion to be exact!) If we do move it up, it will be by a half hour, starting at 3:00pm instead!
My only worry would be some guests will whine about ending the reception early and decline for that reason alone. I’ve read here and at another forum that an 8pm end time would be a dealbreaker for many guests. But I rather end early to avoid the heat than make people suffer in the heat when the reception is a block away from the ceremony. Or worse, skip the ceremony and just go to the reception!
Too bad that fair starts at 6pm! That way the kids can enjoy it as well as the community swimming pool to cool off!
Post # 8
I agree with @fishbone: could you either extend the extended cocktail hour, or shorten that and allow more time for guests to spend at your houses? One hour isn’t long at all, especially if you have many people attending lunch.
I think the fair sounds really fun, though! Definitely memorable for you and your guests 🙂
Post # 9
@windcriesamy: Like I said, everything is very close. Grammy’s is 3 houses away from the church. Our house is less than 5 minutes.
However, the reception hall is only a block away so maybe we can push it up by a half hour.
Another thing I’m planning to do is give guests bottles of water as they leave the church, lemonade (pink and regular) and iced tea as welcoming drinks at the RH, homemade pierogies and empanadas added to the CH menu, and coupons for funnel cake at the fair.
And sparklers as our “grand exit” at the reception!
Post # 10
I think it sounds fine, and fun!
Post # 11
It does sound like a long day, but don’t extend the gap. As long as guests have something to do during the ‘gap’ you aren’t pushing etiquette boundaries.
Post # 12
I might grumble about the gap but I’m used to it with Catholic weddings so it wouldn’t be problem. And I like the fair idea! I would have no problem what-so-ever with starting and ending early – no gap and more time at the fair!!!
Post # 13
Nope soundsl lovely to me. You’re not starving the guests with some ridiculous 4 hour break, which I saw someone trying to justify on the b oards somewhere. People will take the time to change shoes, or grab a quick drink at the bar .. it’s not that uncommon to have an hour between things.
you’re right about the heat .. it’s hit or miss in Pa that time of year.
Post # 14
The timeline looks fine, but I just have to say the post reception at the local fair sounds like so much fun!!!