(Closed) Would this wedding itinerary considered tacky?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I went to a wedding with that EXACT timeline! It was fine, EXCEPT…

THERE WAS NO FOOD OR DRINK AT THE “EXTENDED COCKTAIL HOUR”. Please don’t do that to your guests! It was HORRIBLE!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Can you start the extended cocktail hour even earlier?  One hour doesn’t seem like enough time to make it worth going to someone’s house. If you started cocktails at 3 instead of 3:30, that gives everyone a few minutes to mingle after church before heading to the reception, and frees both you and your fi’s grandmother from the chore of recieving a lot of guests on the same day as your wedding.  Even better if you can start cocktail hour early, and start the reception early, to keep things moving along.

Post reception isn’t tacky at all; would be fun as an optional activity although you may wish to go with a very relaxed dress code— sundresses for the ladies, dress shorts for the men, stuff like that— so folks don’t have to tote around an extra change of clothes or deal with their nice clothes at a fair.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

As long as you provide for your guests, I think this would be just fine (and actually sounds like quite a bit of fun!) Anyone who knows you well enough to be invited should realize that you’re Catholic (if not, the word “Mass” in the invitation might clue them in) and most people realize that Catholic weddings almost always have a gap.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I agree with @fishbone:  could you either extend the extended cocktail hour, or shorten that and allow more time for guests to spend at your houses? One hour isn’t long at all, especially if you have many people attending lunch.

I think the fair sounds really fun, though! Definitely memorable for you and your guests 🙂

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I think it sounds fine, and fun!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It does sound like a long day, but don’t extend the gap.  As long as guests have something to do during the ‘gap’ you aren’t pushing etiquette boundaries.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I might grumble about the gap but I’m used to it with Catholic weddings so it wouldn’t be  problem. And I like the fair idea! I would have no problem what-so-ever with starting and ending early – no gap and more time at the fair!!!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Nope soundsl lovely to me.  You’re not starving the guests with some ridiculous 4 hour break, which I saw someone trying to justify on the b oards somewhere.  People will take the time to change shoes, or grab a quick drink at the bar .. it’s not that uncommon to have an hour between things.

you’re right about the heat .. it’s hit or miss in Pa that time of year.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

The timeline looks fine, but I just have to say the post reception at the local fair sounds like so much fun!!!

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