(Closed) Would this work?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I WANT to tell you I think it’s ok, but it sounds off to me…it wouldn’t be in any circumstance other than a wedding. There might not be a lot but maybe try to find one that does rent for just the weekend that you would be able to afford. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

No, I don’t think charging your guests to stay in the house that you’ll trash during the after party is going to work. 

Also… Be careful with the party in the hotel. My old boss did that for his daughter – they got a lot of complaints from other guests in the hotel. (it didn’t stop the party, but it was a little embarrassing for them!)

Perhaps if you start contacting house owners now and asking about renting a house for one or two nights you’ll be able to find a house you like & in your budget with an owner who will be open to a rental period of less than one week??

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well…how close are you with your friends? Some people have the kind of relationship in which people won’t be scandalized by this type of thing, but you either have to be really really mellow and/or really really close!

I think the thing that gives me pause is that you’d be dependent on their financial contribution. That’s sort of not a good premise to set up with your guests. 

 

Maybe you guys are party animals, maybe my crowd is a bunch of duds, but not too many of the weddings I’ve been to have lasted beyond 12:30, to tell you the truth! I mean, especially with the couple getting up usually fairly early to primp and all that, it’s a looooong day 🙂

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I dunno. If its cheaper to stay at the beach house than a hotel, or cooler you could pitch it almost like a courtesy?  Like we’re renting a house for a week so if you’d prefer to stay here for x a night it’s available and let’s kill two birds with one stone. The last dw I attended a bunch of people rented a house and they had the bachelor party and kicked out thespouses one night.  But if its way More expensive it gets tricky. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think if you could get it a house for a couple of days, I’d go for it.  But I wouldn’t personally want to pay for a place that an after-party was being held at unless it was a huge discount over a room.  And as long as your guests are ok with it, I don’t see the problem though.

 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

As a final thought I also don’t think that ending it at 12:30 is the worst thing in the world. Weddings (at least in my experience) are a little different than your typical night out….it’s like you jam so much extra fun (and food, an open bar, and music) in the time you have that they sometimes end a little earlier than a normal night out would…without it being lame at all. To clarify, what time does your reception start? Because a lot of times I wouldn’t even go out until 9 here, and it sounds like you will have been partying for a while before that. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@peachacid:  Oh, I didn’t mean to offend. Perhaps “trashing” was a bad choice of wording. I didn’t mean to imply that you’d break things or have people getting sick on furniture.  But a group of people hanging out and snacking, drinking (even sprite) and lounging late in to the night is liable to leave a bit of a mess when they are done. Few people feel like cleaning a house at 2am.

It seems a little unfair- IMO- to ask some people to rent a house and then leave dishes in the common area, a sticky spot on the counter where a drink was spilled and not completely wiped up, no more toilet paper in the restroom closest to the common area….

Plus, if a guest staying in the house wants to turn in before the after party is wrapped up it could be awkward…

You know your guests. You’re really the only one who can decide what’s best for you and your wedding. But the situation wouldn’t be ideal for my family and friends.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@peachacid:  Haha… Doesn’t he know what most couples do to “not sleep” on their wedding night? 😉

(sorry!)

Good luck with your planning. 

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