(Closed) Would u be friends on FB with a woman who cheated on your brother, son or uncle?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you be friends on FB with a woman who cheated on your brother, son, or uncle?
    Yes. Please explain. : (5 votes)
    4 %
    Yes. Only if he says hes okay with it.(Though is he telling you the truth when he says that?) : (9 votes)
    8 %
    Yes. Even if he says hes not comfortable with it. : (2 votes)
    2 %
    No. She cheated, the relationship is over, dont want anything to do with it. : (101 votes)
    86 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    891 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    It depends on the relationship before hand for me. If I had been close with her prior to the cheating, I would probably be friends with her. I don’t think that telling other people not to be friends with someone because they hurt you is a fair thing to do. Just because the romantic relationship didn’t work out, doesn’t necessarily mean whatever family relationships developed have to end as well, especially after 10 years.

    ETA: I was referncing real life relationships, not necessarily Facebook. I’m only friends with people on Facebook that I’m close too in real life, so I guess that I would remain friends with her on Facebook as well.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2747 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Wait a few months.  If there is no contact between her and your brother and her and you, delete.

    Post # 5
    Member
    7495 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Say your sister in law cheated on your brother.  But now that their relationship is over you still want to see the really cute pictures of your nieces and nephews that she posts on Facebook.  That is an example of when I might still be *friends* with her.

    FWIW, I am friends with my ex-husband on FB.  Is that odd?

    Post # 6
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    1542 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Family is first, I wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who treated a member of my family that way. However Facebook friends is not real friends at all. If she’s just a random chick who cutted all bond with the family I’d defriend her but if there are other elements (like kids) involved I’d keep her on FB, it might be usefull later, again facebook friends doesn’t mean real friends at all.

    Post # 7
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    2373 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2008

    If we were friends.. I’m not sure.

    My brother’s girlfriend cheated. I don’t blame her for finding someone else and could have dismissed the cheating (hey- it happens. She’s engaged to the guy now, they had legitimate feelings for each oher)..  it was the fact she led my brother on for 3 months after she broke up with him. He didn’t know about the other guy and was trying to win her back- she let him waste his money and time. He was a wreck. It changed how I felt about her and thus she was unfriended.

     

    Post # 8
    Member
    5073 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    my brother and I are very close.  I would never stay friends with someone who hurt him like that.

    Post # 9
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    3638 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    If there are children, then yes because she will post about them. If you are close friends as it is, then yes because you have a relationship in your own right, not just through the uncle (or whomever). If they are talking about it and looking to work things out, then yes, de-friending her could just cause tension. 

    If there are no children, you weren’t friends and only connected by the uncle and the uncle was completely done with her – then no, I wouldn’t be “friends” with her. 

    Some people might remain friends just so that they could stalk her and gloat about how her life goes downhill after the breakup. 

    Post # 11
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    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I guess it depends on the person who was wronged.  Meaning, if the man who got cheated on was ok with them continuing the relationship, then I would probably still be friends.  Granted, I wouldn’t be as close to her had she not hurt the person I loved – and, it would probably only be an aquaintence type of relationship – at that.

    But, I could see how cutting off all contact would be dramatic (especially if the man wronged had forgiven the person and moved on, etc.)

    Post # 12
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    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

     My older brother’s wife cheated on him when i 16.  I wound up spying on her and following her around town taking notes for the attorney.  My family hated her, she hurt my brother she was dead to us.  She stopped the affair my brother and her got back together and worked things out. It took years to even deal with her on any level, but if my brother could get over it we had to.   15 years later she has another affair, they get divorced. She is dead to us.

    They have 3 kids and now 2 grand kids.  My brother gets cancer and passes away.  She has full  custody of the youngest kid and the two grandkids.  My brother was never outwardly angry at her, never spoke ill of her, he was amazing.  We had to suck it up to get to see the kids ever.  She’s been in my life since I was 9 years old.  Eventually we let go of the hurt and anger towards her.  Nothing we did was going to bring him back, and missing out on his kids/grandkids growing up wasn’t worth the anger. 

    So yes I’m actually friends with my ex-sister in law, and she in fact, along with her b/f, are coming to my wedding.

    Post # 13
    Member
    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    A woman cheated on my uncle right after an injury that made him paralyzed from the chest down. She cheated on him with his best friend. They were together like 12 years (never married). I still dislike her for this. She tried to add me on FB..that was  big fat IGNORE!!

    Post # 14
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    1351 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Hell to the naw. Blood comes first. And, my brother and I are SUPER close.

    Post # 16
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    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    It depends on how close I am to the relative, TBH.

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