(Closed) would u buy a dress your fiance did not like?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Helper bee

I might take his opinion into consideration but I wouldnt not choose a dress because he doesnt like it. My fiance said he didnt like almost every dress I looked at. I think on the day of your wedding he is going to think that you are the most beautiful person alive and the dress really wont matter.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@charmedlife357: I agree. My FH and I have the same taste, but even if he didn’t like the dress, if I loved it then we would want me to have it.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

If I loved a dress and he didn’t I would still get it because he really doesn’t know what it looks like with the accessories. I have purchased clothing items in the past that my Fiance said he didn’t like at the time of purchase, but when I wore them, he loved them.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Maybe not if he saw the final version on me and didn’t like it. It’s different if he just saw a pic on a model, or before alterations if you were planning on doing any. Men usually can’t envision the final product before it’s finished and done and on their lovely bride!

I bought three dresses Undecided…That is a long and different story, but there is one that noone on the Hive liked and I loved so I finally showed a cell phone pic to my Darling Husband (FI at the time) and he said he doesn’t care for it. I asked him why, he said it’s “because of the line at the hips”. I was like what line? I bought the dress anyway because I knew he didn’t know what he was talking about. A week later I showed him a different photo taken with a better camera without telling him I bought it. He said, “hey it looks different now, I like it!”. In the end I didn’t wear that dress for different reasons, but I still love it. The other day I tried it on to take some pics cause I’m trying to sell it and I had Darling Husband help me with zipping it up. He had never seen it on me. He said “I loved the dress you wore at our wedding but this one’s very beautiful too, you look gorgeous!”. He didn’t even remember or notice it was the same dress with “the line”.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would never bring my fiancee shopping with me or even show him photos of dresses because our styles are very different. I know that if I feel great on the day, I’ll look fab, regardless of the dress – so I’m keeping him in the dark and getting the dress that I love!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I showed mine pictures of similar dresses to the three I considered. Of course he thought the one I liked looked like a prom dress (at worst in a dark color I could wear it to museum fundraiser, not to prom) and his favorite was my least favorite of the three (still pretty but not very me). I shrugged it off and went with what I liked. He said  he would think I looked beautiful no matter what I wore so that’s the opinion I went with.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@meliss: I love how you said: “I asked him why, he said it’s “because of the line at the hips”. I was like what line? I bought the dress anyway because I knew he didn’t know what he was talking about.”

That totally made me laugh! I can just imagine myself, so many times, in a situation like that! It’s just so accurate.

My Fiance does not like my dress, at all. But I said to myself, what does he know? Haha.. Also, I love my dress. And I am the one wearing it. Plus, on that day, I doubt he would even notice if I wore the one I have or another one.. He is just gonna be freaking out about getting married!

Myself, and all the women around me, will be the only ones thinking about my dress.. So, as long as I love it, then I’m happy. Plus, I have a feeling that with the veil, the hair, and maybe a few tears, he might like my look that day, after all..

I hope. Embarassed

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I like @NatDawn’s answer because it’s exactly what I was thinking.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I would totally buy a dress if FH didnt like it. Its my dress and Ill be the one wearing it. We never have the same tastes when it comes to clothes.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I looked through some wedding magazines with my fiance, and asked him to point out gowns (and certain things about them) that he both did and did not like. So I’d turn a page, he’d look at an ad, and say “ugh, see how this one does ____? I’m not a fan” or “oh, that’s nice, minus the belt thing”. I got a good feel for his general tastes without getting insulted, and thankfully he’s not too far from my own opinions.

I think your guy’s opinion matters in a general sort of way, but that it shouldn’t stand in the way of something you really love.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I chose a dress that encompasses everything both of us wanted – that being the things I liked about a dress (sweetheart, ruching, A line) and made sure that it was a dress that flattered me, that I felt sexy in and that I knew Fiance would find me beautiful in.

Honestly though once your Fiance sees you on the day of he wont care what your dress looks like!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

If that is the first one, then DEFINITELY, 100%, try on more!

I was dead set on the “pick up” skirt initially, then I wanted mermaid.. I tried one or two of each style, and when the Manager in the store brought out this A-Line, lace dress dangling off a hanger, I thought it was hideous. I tried it on to humour her… but when I came out, I was shocked… A year later, that’s my Wedding Dress…

So you might be surprised in the difference in what you like on a hanger or manikin, or someone else and what you like on YOU. I think in most cases, a bride buys the complete opposite of what she Thought she wanted!

Try on all the styles and that way you can rule some out.

Have fun!

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