Post # 47
I never think it helps to outrightly condemn events that are commonplace in other countries/cultures if the purpose of the thread is not for that purpose. As an example, it is commonplace for us to have cash bars here in the UK but I also recognise that this is a breach of etiquette of pearl-clutching horror in the USA. So unless the thread title encourages us to discuss the principle of any particular cultural difference, it’s best to just accept that differences.
In this case, OP, you can either afford to go or you can’t. Base your decision on this. Which I see you have. Anyone prepared to block you from Facebook because you couldn’t attend her buck and doe is almost certainly not worth worrying about either.
Post # 48
@Steampunkbride: Very true. These forums definitely show the differences between regions and areas.
Post # 49
@DiamondnLovey: I wouldn’t go. I’ve never been to such a party but as I understand you have to buy other things when you get there like drinks and raffle tickets. Sounds like it won’t just be the cost of the ticket.
Post # 50
@carolinabelle: +1. I totally agree.
” I think asking people to fund a party you’re hosting is rude, regardless of what the event is, how you go about begging for money or how commonplace it may be. “
Post # 51
one really has nothing to do with the other.
do you want to go? can you afford the tickets price?
Post # 52
@weddingmaven: she did just that. Had it posted right after christmas day. I personally think she should have waited til after the new year to post anything in regards to do that.
Post # 53
@ajillity81: I would have wanted to go but can’t afford it right now.
Post # 54
@Steampunkbride: it certaintly isnt . its her loss not mine.
Post # 55
Social culture is tricky. We decided not to have one, and people were so upset. We get hit up to buy tickets to everyone and their dogs social all the time. I buy support tickets for friends and people I like, I only attend family members or close friends socials. It’s not just the ticket… it’s the drinks and prize tickets once you get there. It adds up :/ . I don’t think you should feel bad for not going regardless of the reason. If she’s going to get bitchy about a $15 ticket well, nertz to her.
Post # 56
@HappySky7: Ya definately! We just got over christmas, my hours at work have been cut back so i cant really afford much right at the moment . She sent messages over facebook before christmas and at the time i didnt think it would be a problem.I said i would go and be able to book it off. But then after christmas i looked at my finances and right now im making 100 $ less than what i was making before christmas. I thought she would understand, because she also has been a tough spot. But i guess i was wrong about her.
Post # 57
@ajillity81: Yes, i wanted to go, but cant afford it. I work at walmart and the hours there are not a lot. We just bought a van in november and just getting in the process of the payments now. Im paying for my dog to get spayed which is going to cost about 5-600dollars including shots, on top of all my monthly & wedding expenses we are paying for. Its just bad timing and she didnt understand.
Post # 58
I wouldn’t by one simply because they aren’t a thing around here. If I was good friends with the couple and it was a thing here, then I probably would purchase one, to show my support for the couple.
Post # 59
In communities where socials are the norm, it is very common to buy a ticket to a buck and doe but not go to show support for the couple. Saying that you have another social engagement that evening is a much more polite excuse because with the amount of notice given, not being able to find $10 is not believable.